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Brian McCaffrey Obituary
DELMAR - Brian Patrick McCaffrey, 55, of Delmar, N.Y., passed away unexpectedly on March 27, 2024.
Brian was born in the Bronx, N.Y. to Aiden and Teresa McCaffrey. He graduated from Mount Saint Michael Academy High School in the Bronx and received his Bachelors of Engineering - Civil Engineering from City College of New York.
A Professional Engineer, Brian was employed by the State of New York for 25 years; first in the Structures Division of the NYS Department of Transportation and most recently in the Bridge Management Bureau at the NYS Thruway. In between his positions at NYS Brian was employed by Earth Tech/AECOM and HAKS Engineering in Middletown, Conn.
He enjoyed traveling, was a life-long N.Y. Yankees fan, played the guitar, and loved going to concerts. He coached youth soccer for eight seasons for the Bethlehem Soccer Club. A member of St. Thomas the Apostle Church, Brian was a Catechist in the Faith Formation program for 11 years.
In addition to his father Aiden McCaffrey, Brian is survived by his loving wife of 25 years, Mary Ellen McCaffrey and his beloved daughters, Norah and Ellen. Also survived by his brother, Kevin (Dianna) McCaffrey of Monroe, Conn.; in-laws, Tom and Glenda Gardner of Sunset Beach, N.C.; brother in-law, Tommy (Sarah) Gardner of Wilmington, N.C.; nieces, Catherine McCaffrey, Meagan McCaffrey, Abigail Gardner; and nephews, Michael McCaffrey and Benjamin Gardner.
Relatives and friends are invited to call on Thursday, April 4, 2024 from 4 to 7 p.m. at Applebee Funeral Home, 403 Kenwood Ave., Delmar, N.Y. Funeral Mass will be celebrated on Friday, April 5, 2024 at 10 a.m. at St. Thomas the Apostle Church in Delmar, N.Y. Interment will be private at a later date.
In lieu of flowers, donations in Brian's memory may be sent to the Upstate N.Y. chapter of the Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation (JDRF) (jdrf.org/upstateny) or the Bethlehem Music Association (bcsdmusic.org).
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Sebastian Morello
May 4, 2024
McCaffrey Family,
I was surprised and saddened to hear about Brian´s passing. I´m deeply sorry your family is experiencing the pain of a loss like this. My heart goes out to each of you. If there is anything I can do, please let me know.
Tom McAndrews
April 6, 2024
Brian was my friend since we were classmates at CCNY in the late 1980's. He was a great guy and a really smart engineer. Meeting and marrying Mary Ellen was the greatest thing that ever happened to Brian. Norah and Ellen brought SO MUCH joy to his life. Whenever we spoke, even just about bridges or pizza or the Yankees, Brian would tell me about his girls. He was so proud to be their father.
We miss you, Brian. You were one of the all-time greats.
Cindy Ferra
April 2, 2024
Mary Ellen, Mary Beth told me about Brian's passing. My deepest sympathy to you and your daughters. Prayers for all of you.
Kevin Powers
April 2, 2024
I was saddened to hear of Brian's passing. Brian and I started at NYSDOT on the same day in 1992. We walked in the door of HR at the same time and would often joke (it was kind of a comedy bit) about who was higher on the seniority list. We ended up sitting next to each other and working closely together for over 2 years before our careers went in different directions. We did a lot of good work together and most importantly we laughed a lot while doing it. He had a quick wit, taught me (from NH) a lot about growing in the Bronx, Irish heritage, the Greatful Dead, and NY style pizza (pepperoni and onions after softball games).
Professionally, I admired his accomplishments in developing bridge rating engineering software that is used by every state and being nationally recognized expert in the field.
It was a privilege to have known him.
Judy Kibrick
March 29, 2024
Mary Ellen, Norah and Ellen, we are so sorry for your loss. Our family has been thinking of you and holding you and the girls in our hearts.
Sincerely,
The Kibrick Family
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