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DEREK JAMES PARKER

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DEREK PARKER Obituary

DEREK JAMES PARKER
On Thursday, September 8, 2016. Loving and devoted husband of Jo Anne Parker; beloved father of Joye Demaris Parker; son of Betty Goins Parker and the late James Albert Parker. He is also survived by a brother, Douglas Ingram Parker; a host of other relatives and friends. Mr. Parker will lie in state at The New Southern Rock Baptist Church, 750 Buchanan St., NW on Thursday, September 15 from 10 a.m. until funeral services at 11 a.m. Interment private. Services by STEWART.

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Published by The Washington Post on Sep. 14, 2016.

Memories and Condolences
for DEREK PARKER

74 Entries

Leslie Kern

April 4, 2024

So terribly sorry to read of Derek's passing. I only knew him for a short time, but in that time it was obvious that he was someone that every man should aspire to be. The world is a lesser place without him in it. My sincerest condolences.

Andrea Williams

March 13, 2023

Jo Anne, you crossed my mind today and I decided to look you up and found this. I'm sorry for your loss--I'm late, I know.

Jo Anne Parker

September 8, 2022

Jo Anne Parker

September 8, 2022

Jo Anne Parker

September 8, 2022

Jo Anne Parker

September 8, 2022

Jo Anne Parker

September 8, 2022

It´s been 6 years and it feels like yesterday. Missing you

Jo Anne Parker

September 9, 2019

3 years later Joye and I still miss you. Life will never be the same for us but we know God did not make a mistake on 9/8/16. I know I will see you again. Until then Thank You for taking care of my heart.

Your Wife,

Susan Privot

September 8, 2019

I knew Derek during my high school years. He was a kind, funny, genuine man. Know he is remembered fondly.

Stephanie 'Stephie' Greenhorn

October 19, 2017

I was just thinking about Derek today and wondered what ever happened to the athletic, intelligent and thoughtful young man that was a friend of my college roommate at UMBC in the late 70's. I Googled his name and found his obituary. Even though I hadn't seen him since 1979, the world felt kinder knowing that he was still physically here sharing his kindness. I don't know why I thought of him today. I remember having good times together eating in the dining hall, walking to class, sharing stories about a track meet or watching him play B-ball for the Retrievers. He would always look out for us girls if he knew we were walking back from class late at night and taught us self defense moves to protect ourselves. Not long ago, I was ill due to chemotherapy treatments and it reminded me of the time I was sick with the flu and away from home and Derek made a point to check-in on me at the dorm. He spoke very highly of his family. It would take him forever to tell a story about the antics him and Dougie would pull, because it was interrupted by his own laughter. My mother still remembers a time when a group of us college kids got a car and we stopped by my parent's house for a quick hello and Derek sat down in our living room and beautifully played on the piano. I've read the other comments and I am not surprised that the 20 year old I briefly knew, positively touched so many lives in his adulthood. His mother should be proud of the wonderful man she raised. Even though, I don't know any of you, I pray for your strength as you move through this challenge in your life. It is comforting to know that I have another familiar face in heaven who will be able to greet me and someone who I can try to emulate while I'm still here on earth.

Susie Tvardzik Privot

February 12, 2017

I met Doug and Derek Parker in Kemp Mill. Doug was in my class and Derek a few years ahead. We lived in a predominantly white, Jewish neighborhood. My first recollection was Derek playing basketball in my backyard with my dad, who played ball in high school as well. Dad told us that we needed to respect this colored family. They were the first black family that my siblings and I had contact with.

While in high school, Derek would come to our house and we became very good friends. As mentioned so many times, he was kind, funny, thoughtful and laughed a lot. Coming from a divorced family, I needed the laughs.

I'm so sorry to hear of his untimely loss, but am blessed to know that he walked with the Lord and was a man who changed lives for the better.

I look forward to seeing you, Derek, one day, walk down streets of gold, and laugh.

Tommie Collins

October 27, 2016

Life has a way of bringing people together and time certainly can create distance. When I adopted Joye as my little sister at Hampton, a lifelong friendship blossomed. In me welcoming her into my life and taking her under my wing, Mama Jo and Poppa Parker adopted me as their son.

As all of the other remarks, beautiful regards, and messages preceding mine, it is confirmed how instrumental and how impactful Mr. Parker has been in the lives of people, both near and far. Such a godly man with an infectious smile and laugh. He was such a humble giant. I see now even more where Joye inherited this gorgeous attribute.

Words won't ever illustrate how appreciative I am of the Parker family's invaluable generosity and unconditional love for for not only me, but my hopes and aspirations also. Although he is not here physically, I have gained an incredible guardian angel.

Thank you Poppa Parker for inviting me not only into your home but your life and your heart. Thank you for the hugs and the reassurance when you called me Son. Thank you for exemplifying what it means to be a godly man, a selfless father, and an endearing husband. Thank you for your contributions to your family, your students, and humanity as a whole. This world will never be the same without you in it.

To Joye and Mama Jo, I love you and I will always be here for you. Whether I'm near or far, you will ALWAYS have a son and brother in me. Peace and blessings to you all.

Tina Mason

October 27, 2016

It's still so hard to believe you are no longer here. I'll always cherish are conversations. Thank you for always always having my back. I'll always look at you as a second father continue to rest easy my friend love you to pieces.

Convocation Me, Papa D and Jazz

Dominique Brown

October 26, 2016

Hey Papa D, I know you are smiling down at us from Heaven. Thank you for being one of the father figures in my life. It's still a little difficult to think that you are truly in a better place, but I know that God makes no mistakes. When I first met you and Mama Jo I loved you all's relationship and who would have known that we would grow so close that you all became my second family. You are a special soul and I am glad that you fulfilled the purpose God placed in your heart. Keep loving! And just to let you know that even though I am far away right now, I will continue to look out, care, and love your Joyebird (my sister) and Mama Jo. I love you with all my heart.

pete young

October 26, 2016

I didn't know Derek long about 2 years to be exact. In that period of time we developed a great friendship. I truly will miss our morning conversations about sports and the daily grind of our jobs. His distinctive voice every morning saying "What's up cool guy?", and of coarse him rolling through for his normal Friday morning cinnamon vanilla waffle! He and I had made plans the week he passed away to be on 3rd baseline at Camden Yards to watch the Orioles and I know we would have had a great time. Thanks for the footprints in the sand you left in everyone life my brother...you will be missed! Peace!

Otis Avant

October 25, 2016

I will miss cousin Derek. A great spirit, sense of humor, sense of purpose, family member, etc. May he and the rest of the family be at peace, be there for and support 1 another, continue to love and cherish memories and times together - past, present and future. 1 of my most poignant memories of Derek is when he and brother Douglas will get together and start joking around - HILARIOUS!

Hugs and Love

OT

Jonathan Turak

October 23, 2016

Remembering Derek

By Jonathan Turak

I should start at the beginning. Silver Spring Maryland, 1968, a new neighborhood that was solidly Jewish, with one protestant family (us), one Irish Catholic family. We had been there about a yearmy Mom taught fifth grade at the local elementary school--when a new family moved in

My Mom said that when she saw Derek in the line with her fifth graders on the first daythe big kid who stood out--looking awful scared, her heart went out to him and she loved him immediately. He said that on the first day she called on him and encouraged him by saying OK, Derr, good job! He thought, I have a nickname now!

He became her right-hand man. There was a kid in the class who--she found out at the end of the yearshould never have been there, as he suffered from extreme bi-polarity. On a field trip to the Smithsonian, the kid set a fire in a garbage can and then ran off. Derek, could you get him? My Momwith 60 kids to look after--asked in desperation. Sure Mrs. Turak. and he was off, caught the poor little guy, and in a gentle but unbreakable grip, carried him back to the bus.

Derek also remembered that the first time he came over to our house, my Dad, the son of Ukrainian immigrants, took him aside and said, I have an idea of what you are going through right now, because I went through something similar. If you ever need to talkor if someone gives you any troublelet me know. Wow, he told me years later: no grown-up had ever talked to him like that before!!

Derek, Dougie, and I had some great times! Since 1969 I have not been able to eat at movie concession stands.that year the three of us went to see John Wayne in True Grit. Actually, we sat through three showings of it (you could do that back then!), scarfing down vast quantities of Coke, popcorn, Heath Bars, Red Hots, Good'n'Plenties, and ice cream sandwiches, to the point that we were somewhat nauseous on the way out.

I was always the 98lb weakling, but Derek gave me credit for starting his athletic training. I signed up for cross country in Junior High, and showed up at Derek's that evening so that we could start running and training. He told me later that I was the one who started him training!

I also realized what a well-behaved kid he was (I was not always the best example!) when I walked into the school gym in street shoes. He politely but firmly told me that I was not supposed to do that. I had a propensity for getting into trouble in those days, and realized that he just might be a good example for me to follow!

Derek's enormous athletic ability would eventually take him to other schools, so we saw less of each other. However, he did remember coming over one spring day while I was working in my Big Organic Garden. We got to work together, having a lot of fun. He got home late that day. His Mom wanted to know where he had been. At Jon Turak's.
That was fine. What did he do there?
Worked in his garden.
OK then, you can work in my garden now!
Somehow, he said, that wasn't as much fun!

My family was very aware of the pressures on the Parkers in that neighborhood, and a regular dinner table discussion was how we could support them. I was reading Life magazine one day, and there was an article about a particularly horrible southern sheriff in Florida. I was thirteen, at home in Silver Spring, but my first reaction was: How can I protect Derek and Doug!

We stayed in touch with Derek through high school and college; the last time I saw him for a long time was before I shipped out to Romania in 1984 with the Foreign Service. Then we lost track until one day outside of Trader Joe's in 2009 I heard a booming voice behind me saying, Is that Jon Turak!

Yep! It was Derek!...we exchanged e-mails...then we Turaks moved overseas for four years.

November-December 2011 found me alone in a house in Southern FranceWe had been living in New Zealand for my wife's job, when her Mom passed on. So, being a good husband, I went off to France by myself (my wife is French) to take care of her mother's house and get it ready for sale. Lonely as all get out!

So I zapped off an E-mail to Derek, apologizing for my long silencewherein I got a fantastic response. We kept up a correspondence until I returned with Nathaniel (due to Green Card problems which were MY fault, Anita, joined us two months later).

Derek was there to help us move in, befriend Nathaniel, lend us what we needed, provide much needed encouragement, and get settled. He always referred to me as big brothereven though I was significantly shorterand called Nate nephew. A reassuring presence! He also got me started substituting at E Brooke Leethe middle school we had both attended.

Derek and Nate quickly bonded through their love of sports and history. Derek and I called each other regularlyhe came over whenever my Mom was in town. We had some plans to write some articles together, and developed notes on a curriculum for hard-to-reach children. I earnestly hope to carry on this work, in his name.

Derek enriched our and countless other lives immeasurably. In terms of what he had to give, he will never leave us. Nate summed up Derek's immense contribution to our world, when I told him how crowded the Church was for the service, in one line: Of course, he said, Derek's whole life was one big good deed!

Helena Epps

October 20, 2016

I loved my big brother Derek. It very hard for me to believe that he is no longer with us. May you rest in peace my brother until we meet again.

Much love and peace to
Joann and Joye.

October 19, 2016

During the few years I have known Derek, I grew to adore and respect him, his knowledge, his familial devotion, his love of African-American history,and his great sense of humor. I miss him, but I feel his spirit. Marsha Moore

Jamir Foster

October 19, 2016

Derek Parker was and always will be an amazing person. I never met such a lovable big teddy bear. He was a walking encyclopedia who shared is knowledge with all who would listen. I always told him that he was professor material. "Now If only I could take your brain back to school with me" I would tease. I never met a man who knew so much history. I miss his smile and his voice. Most importantly I miss his presence at church. It's not the same.. I still look for him sometimes.. I'm blessed to have known such a man.. Truly missed.

Kathleen, Gabriel and Larry Lewis

October 19, 2016

Derek James Parker ... He enrichened, he inspired; he wrote, he spoke; he cheered, he comforted; he laughed, he played; he prayed, he praised; he lived, he loved; he cared enough to make a difference.

Lorene Goins

October 19, 2016

Derek's sweet, caring and loving ways are the hallmark of who I saw him to be. He was an avid historian and master Scrabble player whose talents will not be forgotten. "Hey, Cuz", his signature greeting, will stay with me forever. I will not only miss his presence in the world, but also his warm smile. Definitely a fan favorite and a class act.

Kevin Monroe

October 19, 2016

I'm going to miss Derek coming up to me and saying " hey fella how's it going?". I would always joke with him that it seemed like my hand would hurt for an hour after shaking his hand. He always had a smile on his face and was always positive. I really enjoyed our conversations and will miss running into him in the hallways and his visits to the gymnasium. Derek was an important part of the Kennedy High School community and will be greatly missed.

Derek and JoAnn

Kevin Butler

October 18, 2016

Derek is my cousin, growing up Derek and his brother Doug lived in close proximity to me. His mother Aunt Betty and my mom are sisters, and because of these factors we got to spend a lot of time together, and we became very close cousins. As a family we held reunions twice a year, it was with Derek and Douglas that I spent the bulk of time with during these reunions. Derek would play this stereophonic Record (for the young people reading this, a Record was a round disk that held Music on it prior to the advent of CD's, MP3's and digital music) the album consisted of sounds like a Ping Pong game being played between the speakers. Derek, Doug and I would laugh for hours listening to this recording. Our Moms had decided that they would get together and ride bikes at Wheaton Regional Park. Derek, Doug and I would race our bikes around the park lapping our mothers, and enjoying the company of one another. The friendship continued into adulthood, when my Brother and I moved to North Car olina, Derek and Doug, would make it a point to come and see us whenever we were in town. They would come by with the Hometown favorite Ledo's Pizza. The four of us when eat pizza and talk about Family, life, sports and Politics until the wee hours of the morning. Derek was the family historian, he informed all of us as to our origin. Derek was a devoted Father, Husband and roll model. Derek was my cousin, He was my friend. I will miss him dearly. I love you Brother, Rest in power.

Gordon Needham

October 18, 2016

I haven't had time to review the other posts before mine, so, if I am repeating other words, please excuse me.

By nature and circumstances, I'm pretty much a loner. By default I very few friends and even fewer active relationships with people. I have always had high demands on how and who I spend my personal time and space with. Derek was one of those rare cases for me. Spending late-late hours talking about anything on the phone. And he always made himself available to me when I needed to talk.

The main criteria for someone being actively in my life has been simple... Posses a quality that could make me a better person if I could learn it! And Derek truly possessed such traits. With few exception, Derek was one of the rare people who I could say shared a character trait of my beloved Grandmother, Sadie Needham. Like her, Derek never dwelt on the negative. Even when he felt wrongly victimized by a person or circumstance, he had an incredible ability to simply brush himself off and move on. He seemed to absorb all the bumps and attacks in his life, and move on beyond the scars, without hesitation.

Knowing Derek for over 40 years, I never heard him bad mouth a single soul...not ONE! I wish I could learn to move on and not dwell upon the petty issues and insults of life as he did, but he did give me every opportunity to be a better man with his incredible example. Thank you Derek, you did make me a better man.

Jo Anne Anthony

October 17, 2016

I still can't believe I've lost my "little brother". I wait every Sunday to see you sitting in the second row in the aisle seat in church. I think about you when driving work. I remember when you played the part of a drug addict in our Christmas play and I helped you undo your shoe strings to help you look the part of the prisoner that you played. I will always miss that, hey "big sis" that you always called me. Innaree' still talks about the many books you let her read and she has the last book you gave her. She looked forward to you being here and taking pictures of her going to her prom and helping with steps in getting ready for college. She does know you will be looking down on her with a smile on your face. Innaya' was so proud of showing you that she was no longer afraid to put her head under water. You were so patient in showing her that when you all would have your "pool dates". They truly thought of you as their uncle and miss you terribly. They do know that you are with our Heavenly Father and that you were taken much too soon but will see you one day. Roger has also stated that he will miss your talks about sports. Both of you would talk and watch videos for hours. My brother was such a passionate gentle giant that loved you Jo Anne, and his Joye bird. He was a true family man that would be an example for any man to follow. I loved Derek as my only brother and my prayers will continue to be with you Jo Anne, Joye, Mom Mom, and his only living brother Doug. I will see you again, my brother. God has a gentle giant up there assisting him.
Love you,
Your big sis and family.

Rita Edwards

October 17, 2016

Derek was a very kind, gentle giant. He always greeted me with a hug and smile. I still look for him at church. He will be missed. RIP my brother in Christ.

Rita

Deeannia Hobbs

October 17, 2016

Derek you were such a gentle man who had a big heart for children, Jennifer misses you so much because every time you see Jen-Jen she got a big kiss on the forehead from you and you would always tell her she is beautiful. Derek I thank you for loving her unconditionally and I truly miss you my friend. My sister JoAnn and Joye I will continue to pray for your strength.

Derek always supported me dancing

Dey Watkins

October 17, 2016

Derek Parker is and will continue to be missed! His unexpected home going broke all of our hearts, but knowing that he's with our Heavenly Father now warms it in an inexplicable way. I will miss his hugs and genuine kindness. He made the best weekend breakfasts:) My love and prayers extend to JoAnne, Joye and the rest of the family.

Love always,

Christine Poindexter

October 17, 2016

To Joanne and Joye I don't know where to begin. I have known Derek all of his life. His father, Jimmy, was my first cousin and Derek and Douglas would come to Columbia to visit along with his Grandfather, my Uncle Bus. He was always a talkative one. I enjoyed listening to him and he would ask so many questions. I couldn't answer them all. As an adult he still came to Columbia, and he become involved in our family tree. I then started seeing him more. Derek was so helpful and so kind. He would do whatever he could to lighten your load. I would get call or text messages from him. It was always a joy talking to him. He even became a charter member of the Edmond family. He was well known in Columbia, especially at the Columbia Library. It is hard to believe that I won't be getting any more phone calls or calling me to see if he could sleep on my sofa. I truly believe that the Lord put Derek in my life for a season and a reason. I thank the Lord for the blessing to have been around him and being a recipient of his love. I have found comfort in knowing that I will see Derek again.
Love,
Christine (Cuz)

Angelou Ezeilo

October 17, 2016

Derek has been a dear friend to my father and thereby a friend to me and my family for several decades. Derek's love for history was extended to students in our organization's internship program a few years back. I remember the summer like it was yesterday. The way in which he shared his personal stories and love for history (civil war)will always be remembered by me and my students. There will always be a special place in my heart for Derek.
Love "Angie"

October 17, 2016

When Joye was entering 9th Grade from middle school, Mr. Parker came looking for me in that I was the Head Girls Basketball coach here at Kennedy HS! He mentioned she was tall, had some potential and ready to be a Star for our girls program. Long Story Short, she never played for us here at Kennedy HS BUT in his Heart and Soul, as we talked on a weekly basis while he was here @ Kennedy HS, she did become a Star in her Achievements through HS and in her College career! This was my Best Memory Of our Beloved Mr. Parker while here at Kennedy HS.

- Carlos Smith, Laurel, Md.

Janice Parker O'Hara

October 17, 2016

I don't even know where to begin...
D.J., my big , first- cousin-once-removed (the correct relationship, he researched it!) was more like a brother to me. I saw him almost as frequently as my local family growing up, his Gram was my favorite aunt, we were the same age most of the year, and we grew up sharing jokes, secrets and family lore. My birthday is tomorrow and I will miss him calling me to say happy birthday "baby cuz".

I love you DJ. I miss you and look forward to seeing you again.
Prayers and hugs to Jo and Joye as you adjust to the new normal.

David C Ley

October 17, 2016

I could not believe that you were moving on to the better place so soon Mr. Parker! I vividly remember your smile and always said "hello" whenever we saw each other in the hallways at John F. Kennedy High School. May your soul goes to heaven!RIP.

With all respect,
David C. Ley

Rosie Cross

October 17, 2016

Thanks God for allowing me to meet Mr. Parker. Mr. Parker was a gentle and patient person, he knew that the best of life was to respect others.
Thank you Mr. Parker.

Ronald Harvey

October 17, 2016

Derek and I were planning to go fishing. The date came, and went, and we did not go. I wish we had gone fishing. Bless you Derek. We will go fishing, when I see you again. Love you BIG GUY!

LtCol(ret) Gregory Grunwald

October 17, 2016

I only had the pleasure to know Derek for a few short months after joining the staff at Kennedy HS. His kindness and outreach was immediate. One day when I was locked out of the building he took me in through his "secret entrance" through the cafeteria assisting me in getting better adjusted to the new environment. It is not everyone who will reach out to the stranger and provide help, but Derek was one of those special people.

Leannique Badinga

October 16, 2016

Derek Parker, started off as Mr.Parker when we met through his daughter, Joye, almost a decade ago. Over the years as I got closer to the family, he turned into my beloved Papa D. He treated me just like a daughter from Day 1, and for that I'm eternally grateful. Through he and his wonderful family, I've experienced unconditional love and a true sense of family. You will always be my Papa D. You are greatly missed.
With Love,
Leannique Badinga

Alfreda Jones

October 15, 2016

Dear Jo Anne & Joye...

What a blessing Derek has been in my life!

I had the wonderful advantage of being his 1st-cousin, seeing
him often thru-out his childhood. I even had the privilege of being his "babysitter" during my teen years.

I remember & cherish how Derek & brother Doug, were always asking questions, trying to understand the "whys" of life.

I saw that same quests for knowledge & answers throughout Derek's life. His face would light up when he'd share some of the things he had "uncovered" during his research on the
history of the Goins Family.

In fact, 2 days before his transition to Heaven, he had called to get the name of Jasmin's baby's name, so that he could add the name (Anthony) to the Goins "Family Tree"

Derek was always loving, gentle & kind!!. I knew that this love was genuine by the way you, Joanne, interacted with him. Preferring to sit on his lap rather than a chair..(during visits to see Uncle Sonny @ the Nursing Home / Rehab Facility)...

I am going to miss Derek very much, but, neither you, Joye, Aunt Betty, Doug or those of us who love Derek & love our LORD, should sorrow as others which have have no hope.
1 Thessalonians 4:13 - 18.)

One day, we will see Derek again!!

Glory to our GOD!!!

Lovingly,

Alfreda

Goins and Parker Family at Howard U Art Gallery

October 15, 2016

Denise Goins Stockton

October 14, 2016

A good name is rather to be chosen than great riches, and loving favour rather than silver and gold. (Proverbs 22:1)
Derek James Parker is a good name:
D Devoted. Genuinely devoted to JoAnne (wife), daughter (Joye), Betty (Mom) Douglass (brother) nieces, nephews, cousins, extended family and friends. His sincere love was evident to all.
E Engaging. Wonderful ability to extend himself to others and put them at ease. Was comfortable interacting with all types of people and conversing with people on every level. As the old folks would say, He don't know no strangers.
R Real. Unpretentious. What you see is what you get, but in a way that is gracious and inoffensive. Confidently able to be himself, hold his own, and support his opinions without devaluing those of others.
E Enthusiastic. Excited about his church, his work, his research, and his hobbies. Teaching wasn't a job; it was a joy. And, his students, friends and associates benefited from his contagious enthusiasm.
K Knowledgeable and Kind. A life-long learner. Derek seemed to know something about almost everything and loved to share the knowledge. He was the most sincerely kindhearted person one could know.

I love you dear cousin!

Sincerely,

Mrs. Jo Anne Parker

October 14, 2016

I will miss you always Baby!!

Your Wife

Clint Hobbs Sr

October 13, 2016

Derek was a truly devoted guy to Resurrection Bible Church simply because he loved God. He wanted to do all he could to serve his God. Along with that he was a good hearted people person. If he could help he would. I am still having a little trouble with his sudden departure. I'm missing that brother but I am confident that his absence in the flesh is because he is present with God using that baritone voice in paradise. My heart & prayers goes out to JoAnne, Joye & the family. God is still a good God and worthy to be praised. Bless You !!

Robin Green

October 13, 2016

Such a loving man to everyone he had any contact with. He always had a confident and reassuring demeanor that everything was going to be all right no matter what was going in your life or his if you talked with him. I will truly miss his gentle giant hugs and smile.

Mark & Michelle Hellstern

October 13, 2016

Derek was the gentle giant with a strong relationship with God and always brought out the best in all of us. His devotion to youth and his belief in the next generation was an inspiration to us all. Joanne and Derek were welcome always in our home and we enjoyed many meals together. We enjoyed Derek's humor, heart felt discussions, and his great appetite and appreciation for good food. Derek provided inspiration and advice for our son AJ on the challenges of life and being an African American male.

Derek is sorely missed, and God has a plan for him now as he did in life. We miss him like family, and we are extremely grateful for the fleeting positive impression on our lives.

Alexander Martin

October 13, 2016

Each Sunday Morning, I still find myself looking towards the door expecting to see Derek's smiling face. Or every Wednesday night expecting him to arrive for Bible Study; or to hear that baritone voice whenever the Men's Choir sings. No doubt, I will be expecting to see him during our upcoming Christmas & Easter productions. But then I'm quickly reminded just how much of a positive impact this brother has made on his Pastor. As Derek would often say to me just before I delivered the morning message, Pastor, hit it out of the park.
Our church family continues to mourn the loss of our beloved brother, Derek, and it will take a long time (if ever) to recover from his sudden departure. But our hurt and tears pale in comparison to that which Jo, Joye, Mother Parker and Doug has to endure. But we do know one thing: Derek's death is not the end and we will see him again in that great getting up morning where we all will meet the Lord in the sky. Until then, rest my brother, from your earthly labor in the bosom of the Lord.
Alexander J. Martin, Pastor
Resurrection Bible Church
Glenn Dale, Md.

Jeanne Markray

October 13, 2016

Derek James Parker was a very gentle Man, the epitome of kindness, and he was always ready, willing and able to lend a helping hand. No matter what the problem, he had the innate ability to help you find a solution. Had a question, he worked tirelessly to find the answer. He spent a lot of his valuable time sharing and doing for others selflessly simply because there was a need. I've had to, on many occasions, ask for his assistance and his comeback was always Let's Do It. He provided transportation, no matter the time of day or night. He provided support during a doctor's appointment, hospital visit or stay, no matter the distance or how long the wait. His generosity of spirit had become contagious making all of us want to reach out to others as he did. All the while, we all witnessed the pure love, devotion and pride he had as being the head of his household. As our friendship grew, they saw fit to include me and my son Kevin in their circle of love. I've never heard him talk down about or to anyone and he has always lifted everyone with kind words. He greeted everyone with a brilliant smile and his hearty robust laughter would warm your heart. I don't believe Derek ever met a stranger and if you were fortunate enough to be graced by his presence, before too long you would call him FRIEND. In addition to Derek being a friend, I had the honor and pleasure to call him MY BROTHER.
Derek, you are sorely missed but we'll meet again. Jo Anne and Joye "We are Family."
Jeanne & Kevin

Tom Quiggle

October 13, 2016

I'm still astonished at the sudden loss of a good man who I'd hoped to know better over the coming years. But Derek was my friend, and I will always feel blessed with this. All my love and prayers to Brother Derek, Sister Jo Anne and Sister Joye. We are family.

Tonna' Wims

October 13, 2016

Derek had a very warm spirit and was always a gentleman. I know he's in Heaven right now looking down at everyone. Rest In Peace Derek Parker.

Valarie Delanko

October 13, 2016

I met Derek just a little over a year ago when my family and my partner were in Sandusky, Ohio for government travel. My husband Joe and Derek became instant friends, but that is just the type of warm and caring individual Derek was. He and Joe had so much to talk about. I was so excited to meet my partner's loving husband in person as I felt I already knew him from all the phone calls. Derek was witty, funny, made my partner a mean hearty breakfast so she would have a wonderful efficient work day, and would always say hello to me, LOL. I will miss hearing his voice in the background when calling Jo Anne. Jo Anne always shared stories of Derek with me and they were always full of love, giving back, community support, and his precious gift of all "Joye." I enjoy hearing from my dearest friend each work day and I will always be here to lift her up. I will miss Derek. Love you Jo Anne and Joye!

Beth Butler

October 12, 2016

Derek was so kind and welcoming to everyone. I really miss him, and I'm so grateful to have had him in my life.

I spent some time at the new museum downtown when it opened and I kept thinking of Derek. He was so passionate about the history of our people and our family, and I loved hearing him share his knowledge about our ancestors.

Jo Anne, Joye, Aunt Betty and Doug, you are all in my thoughts and prayers.

Love,
Beth

Sandi Goins

October 12, 2016

JoAnn, Joye, Betty & Doug
We and many others now have a huge void in our lives. Derek had a beautiful spirit of love, with the gift of helping others, he was so completely selfless. I will never forget how he devoted his time to me and his Uncle Sonny, but he never forgot his responsibility to JoAnn and his family. He was always willing and ready to do whatever he could to be a blessing. He loved his Uncle and I know they are together and that's the peace that I have.
I will miss that special hug that only Derek could give. Thank God we will see you again.
Love,
Aunt Sandi

Lynne Goins

October 12, 2016

Derek could fill a room -- not just with his body but with his eager enthusiasm for the people he was with. If you were in Derek's orbit you knew you delighted him.

How lucky am I that he was part of my life from the very start?

And later when I needed family who would bring unconditional love and suspend expectations and defer questions, I called Derek. And unconditional love is what I received. He was my confidante and I'm not sure how I will close that hole.

I loved you Derek from the days of swings and sliding boards. And we will miss you every day that we are here and you are not,

Lynne

October 11, 2016

Hey 'Big Guy', my brother from a different mother. You were a true brother from the very day I met you. With you, what you see is what you get. We've (RBC) lost our 'Gentle Giant' but Heaven has gained an Angel. The church recognizes me as 'Mike's Lil Brother'...fact is, you treated me like I was your 'Little Brother' as well and I loved that about you. That's what I'm going to miss most...your brotherly love and hugs. I LOVE YOU AND I MISS YOU 'BIG BRO'! James Gross (aka) Mike & Derek's Lil Brother

Anita Baker

October 11, 2016

Derek was such a gentle giant. Still can't believe he's gone. But he will always be here in spirit. RBC will miss that baritone voice and his many contributions to Resurrection Bible Church and our church family. He always had a kind word and a big smile. Like when he nicknamed me "Pink Elegance".
Jo Anne & Joye, may prayers and faith will give you strength to get you through.

Cherryl Neill Humphreys

October 10, 2016

A wonderful spirit --- warm, caring, devoted to family, friends and education. And, my best Scrabble buddy ever!

Shari Curtis

October 10, 2016

My deepest condolences to the family, especially JoAnne, Joye, and Lorene. Just met Derek about 6 years ago when he got 130 points for one word in Scrabble at Games Night. What a special and humble man. He will truly be missed. May you find comfort in knowing that his family was truly loved.

Camell Branch

October 10, 2016

I will miss you most at family reunions. The best hugs. The heartiest of laughs and the most amazing stories about the new discoveries you had uncovered in your never ending efforts to unpack our heritage. Not even Facebook is the same without your supportive comments to any and all of my daily ramblings. Your legacy lives on in the eyes of your daughter, the memories of your wife and the love of your mom. But it also lives on in my heart, dear cousin. Miss and love you always, Cam

Velinda Parker

October 10, 2016

Derek was a wonderful person and always knew what to say. We think and talk about him every day. Grant will miss reading and hearing him say Grantastic!!! He will live forever in our hearts. Rest in peace my friend.

Jo Anne Parker

October 5, 2016

Thank you all for the wonderful comments about my husband. He was and will always be the love of my life. He will be missed beyond words by Joye, me, his mother, Betty Parker and only brother, Doug Parker and so many other family and friends. We lost our gentle giant and Heaven has gained a true Angel.

Please continue to keep us in your prayers

David Barry

September 22, 2016

Derek and I were teammates on the basketball team at E. Brooke Lee Junior High School. We also played basketball almost daily during recess on the outdoor courts. Those are very fond memories. I remember him well and am saddened to hear of his passing. My sincere condolences to his family at this very difficult time.

Ricky Ford

September 18, 2016

Derek was such a wonderful and pleasant person. We were shocked by the news. Our prayers go out to you, Jo Anne and Joye.

September 15, 2016

We love you, Uncle Derek and will miss our pool dates. We know you will always be remembered in our hearts and send our love to Aunt Jo and Joye.
Innaree' and Innaya' Anthony, Burtonsville, MD

September 15, 2016

Jo Anne and Joye words can not express how sorry I am about the loss of your loved one. Derek adopted me into his family like I was truly his big "sis". He was a gentle man who loved life. He will be truly missed by me and the girls.
Jo Anne (big "sis") Anthony

Judi Toxie-Bidwick

September 15, 2016

Derek was a student of my at Lee Jr High back in the early '70s and he visited me many times before he went off to college. He was a wonderful, very special, young man then and I'm sure he grew into a gracious gentleman. I tried to locate Derek several years ago and sadly just found out about his passing. My heart goes out to you, Mrs. Parker, and Joye, whom I never met but know how dear you must have been to Derek.
Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Sylvia Rose

September 15, 2016

I am so sorry for your loss. You are in my heart and prayers. May God continue to strengthen you during this very difficult time and may it help to know that many are thinking of you and praying for you. Hugs and love, Sylvia Rose

Burrell & Philippa Ellis

September 15, 2016

Derek will forever be missed and loved. He was our family, as are Jo Anne and Joye. Derek was a lifetime, loyal and dear friend. His passing truly left a void that cannot ever be filled. Jo Anne, Joye, Mrs. Parker (Betty), and Doug please know that God will see you through. We love you and our prayers are with you.

Brenda Peters

September 14, 2016

My deepest sympathy to the entire family. No loss is easy to bear. But know he is rejoicing with the Father.
Betty and Doug: hugs from a former NSWCCD buddy

Joyce Yates

September 14, 2016

You have my deepest sympathy Mrs. Parker & Joye. I worked with Derek at Sligo when he was the long-term history sub. He loved history, his wife & his daughter. He bragged constantly on Joye's achievement especially at winning Ms. Hampton. May the prayers of family & friends comfort you. He will always be remembered!

Linda (crossing guard)

September 14, 2016

I was so sorry to hear of this wonderful mans passing. Life is so precious and we just do not know when God is going to call us home to him. This is a man that I will miss seeing. He always stopped to see me on my post to give us updates of his most precious daughter. He was a man who loved with his whole heart. I can not begin to image the sadness you are both going through. I will pray for you that somehow you will find peace.
Eternal rest grant unto him, O Lord. let the perpetual light shine upon him. And may his soul through the mercy of God, rest in peace. I am so truly sorry

Derek portraying one of his ancestors during The Burning of the Columbia-Wrightsville Bridge Civil War living history event in 2013

Nancy Olds

September 14, 2016

My husband Jan Kopacz and I were stunned to hear about Derek's sudden passing. We met him several times with our mutual involvement with Civil War history, which touched upon his own family history during that war. We will miss his wonderful stories and his keen excitement in participating in Civil War living history events. Derek taught us much about the lives of his ancestors during that conflict.

Ruth Booth

September 14, 2016

Joye & Family, You have my deepest sympathy and I will lift in my prayers as you through this very difficult period. The Lord is your strength and your light and he is there for you.

Claudette Mills

September 14, 2016

We were so grieved to hear of the loss of Derek. He was a kind and gentle giant with an infectious smile. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and Joye.
Deacon & Deaconess Ralph Mills

Gross

September 14, 2016

Long term member of RBC family. Rest in the hands of god.

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