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STEELE Colonel Howard Merritt Steele, JR. Known lovingly as "The Colonel" died Wednesday, December 28, 2016 at Fairfax Inova Hospital after complications from a fall. Colonel Steele was a soldier at heart. He loved his family, his country, his God, the Army and West Point. Howard Steele was born in Hartford, Connecticut, on October 17, 1927, the son of Howard and Bernice (Hall) Steele. He earned his high school diploma from the prestigious Peekskill Military Academy, Peekskill, New York. In 1945, "Howie" was accepted to Yale University. However, "Howie" had always wanted to attend West Point and make the army his career. In 1947, his dream came true. He received a Congressional appointment to the United States Military Academy and in 1951, graduated with a commission as a second lieutenant in the Infantry. His first posting was Fort Benning, Georgia where he married Dorothy King of Washington, DC- his steady girlfriend all through West Point and his true love for the next 65 years. He fought in Korea where he was awarded the Silver Star for gallantry in action as a rifle platoon leader. He also received the Bronze Star for his service as a rifle company commander. After the Korean War, Howard Steele served as Aide-de-Camp for the Commander-in-Chief, Far East Command. In 1954, he and "Dotsy" returned to the U.S. to begin their family and life as a career military couple. They moved more than 21 times, which Howie relished and Dotsy endured! Among the highlights was his service as company commander in the 3rd Infantry, The Old Guard, at Fort Meyer, VA; aide to the Chief of Staff of the Army, General Lyman Lemnitzer; Divisions Operations Officer in the 2nd Infantry during the Cuban Missile Crises following which he volunteered for Vietnam. There, he served as the Senior Infantry Training Advisor at the Vietnamese Infantry School in the early days of the advisory effort in 1963-64. After Vietnam, he returned home to command the 54th Infantry Battalion (Mechanized), attend the Army War College, and in his free time, obtain a Master's Degree from Shippensburg State University in Political Science and International Relations. Duty, honor, and country called again as he volunteered for a second tour in Vietnam where he served as Senior Advisor to the 18th ARVN Infantry Division. One of his favorite tours was as Commander of the 2nd Brigade of the 4th Infantry Division (Mechanized) in Colorado Springs, Colorado. He completed that tour and returned to Washington, DC as Executive Officer to the Assistant Secretary of the Army. He wrapped up his distinguished career as Director of the Combined Arms Department of the Engineer School at Fort Belvoir. After retiring in 1981, he became active in investment management, various hereditary societies including the Sons of the American Revolution, The Society of the Descendants of the Founders of Hartford and a number of others. Colonel Steele was a Master Mason, Scottish Rite and a Shriner. His real focus however, was his wife "Dotsy," his children and his grandchildren, who all loved him beyond measure. Colonel Steele's awards also include three Bronze Stars, Meritorious Service Medals, three Legions of Merit, three Air Medals, Army Commendations Medal, the Vietnam Cross of Gallantry with Palm and a number of other service and foreign medals. He is survived by his beloved Dorothy; son, Howard Merritt Steele, IV and daughter-in-law, Robin Sedlar Steele; two daughters, Cynthia Steele Vance and Susan Steele; and six adoring grandchildren. Funeral Services will be held at Fort Myer Memorial Chapel, Fort Myer, VA on Friday, January 6 at 11 a.m. with a reception to follow at the Fort Myer Officers Club. All family and guests will enter through the Hatfield Gate, South Courthouse Road to 2nd Street South, Arlington, and straight into Hatfield Gate. Please allow 15+ minutes for security check point at Fort Myer; be prepared to show photo identification for entry. Interment at Arlington Cemetery with full military honors will take place at a later date. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to Disabled American Veterans at www.dav.org. Funeral Services will be held at Fort Myer Memorial Chapel, Fort Myer, VA on Friday, January 6 at 11 a.m. with a reception to follow at the Fort Myer Officers Club. All family and guests will enter through the Hatfield Gate, South Courthouse Road to 2nd Street South, Arlington, and straight into Hatfield Gate. Please allow 15+ minutes for security check point at Fort Myer; be prepared to show photo identification for entry. Interment at Arlington Cemetery with full military honors will take place at a later date. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to Disabled American Veterans at www.dav.org.

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Published by The Washington Post from Jan. 1 to Jan. 6, 2017.

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susan steele

December 25, 2017

I miss you so much.

December 25, 2017

Miss you so much.

Jeanne Wilkinson

January 6, 2017

Dear Susan, I am so sorry about your dad. Your father was an accomplished wonderful man. I remember the stories you told us. I know how close you were to your dad and how much you must be grieving. Please know you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Mary Buckert

January 5, 2017

Dotsy, my dear friend, so sad to hear of Howard's passing. We have been at our home in Delaware but have come back to Virginia today to be with you at the memorial service tomorrow. God Bless you, Dotsy, in the difficult days ahead.

Carlos Saez

January 5, 2017

Dear Susan, I was so sorry to hear about your father. You are one of my favorite people and I know how deeply you will mourn his loss. He was a great man.

Wendy Wilkinson

January 5, 2017

My Dear Friend Susan; I am so terribly sorry about your father. "The Colonel" was an amazing, accomplished man and a wonderful father. I know how much you loved and cherished your relationship with him. He was a huge part of your life and gave you your great curiosity, love of adventure, and humor. My prayers and sympathy are with you and your family. Love, Wendy

January 4, 2017

Howie was a friend and stalwart Associate of the Order of the Founders and Patriots of America.

Cari Shane

January 4, 2017

Cynthia, I am so sorry for your family's loss. May Howard Steele, Jr. be for a blessing.

Janet Rodriguez

January 4, 2017

Susan,

I am so sorry for your loss my dear friend. My condolences to you and your family. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Much love, Janet & Cruz

Katie Calkins

January 4, 2017

Rest in peace Colonel Steele.

J Sierra

January 2, 2017

So sorry for your loss. May the love of family surround you and give you strength in the days ahead. My condolences.

Sondra Gillice

January 2, 2017

Howie will be sorely missed by all. I always remember how much he looked out for Dotsie. My deepest sympathy and prayers to his wonderful family.

Marsha Muawwad

January 2, 2017

I loved Col. Steele. I always told Dotsy how lucky she was to have such a great husband, and she knew it. Wonderful, kind, funny and loving person. His memory will live in all of us, especially his beautiful family.

BH

January 1, 2017

Sorry for your loss may there be comfort in knowing that god cares for you.

Elaine Robinson

January 1, 2017

The Colonel was a man larger than life. Our hearts break for you at this time. All our love, Elaine, Tom and the girls

The Schar Family

December 31, 2016

Remembering the Colonel, who lived his life with steadfast honor. We are so sorry for your loss and send you our heartfelt sympathies.
Martha, Dwight, Stuart and Spencer Schar

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