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Ellen Parham Obituary

Ellen Irene Mays Parham

Ellen Irene Mays Parham (99) made her transition to heaven on Saturday December 21, 2013, in her home with family present.

A visitation will be held on Saturday, December 28th from 1:00PM to 2:00PM at Culley's MeadowWood Riggins Road Chapel, followed by a celebration of her life at 2:00PM. Interment will take place at Roselawn Cemetery. Services will be conducted by grandsons, Reverend Carl Blackburn and Reverend David Thompson.

She was born on December 18, 1914 in Taylor County, Florida near Perry. Ellen and twin sister Helen were children of George Elmo and Mamie Frances Branan Mays. Ellen was pre-deceased (2001) by her husband, Leslie James "Les" Parham whom she married on October 18, 1937 in Tallahassee.

With Ellen, a generation ended; she was pre-deceased by each of her siblings: Hugh, Charles, Anton, James Thomas, Robert, Mamie Frances and Helen as well as all of her in-laws.

Her childhood years were spent in Perry, Reddick and Tallahassee. After her mother's early death and the effects of the Great Depression, Ellen came to Tallahassee to live with her brother Hugh Mays and his wife Frances (Woodward) and graduated from Leon High School in 1932.

She was a member of Trinity United Methodist Church and at the time of her passing, Ellen Parham was noted as being the longest member of the church: 87 years.

She had a never-ending adventurous and independent spirit to explore and learn. As a young woman she and friends saved-up and went to the 1933 World's Fair in Chicago. She told stories of taking the train from Tallahassee to Jacksonville with her friends, just to go to a movie. Always ready to travel, later in life she visited Europe, Canada, Hawaii, the Caribbean and Russia.

Ellen retired from a career in state government (Florida Industrial Commission) in 1976 thus enjoying 37 years of retirement filled with bridge games, travel and family. She touched a lot of lives through her work and activities easily making treasured friends along the way.

Ellen was a direct descendant of James Mayes who came to America from Ireland in the early 1700's. James' grandson, Andrew, fought in the American Revolution from South Carolina. Maternal ancestors included her grandfather, Joshua Branan, who was in the Georgia Militia during the War Between the States. She was a proud member of the United Daughters of the Confederacy and "First Families of Henry County, GA".

She is survived by her children, Sara "Sally" Ann Johnson (Victor) of Panama City, FL, Carolyn Ellen Blackburn (Herbert) of Cordele, GA and Leslie James "Jim" Parham, Jr. (Ramsay) of Ochlockonee Bay, FL. "Granny" had 7 grandchildren: Debra Farr Gilhousen (Terry) of Middleburg, FL; Sandra Farr Brophy (Larry) of Bradenton, FL; James Michael Farr (Ammie) of Jacksonville, FL; Jon Jason Farr (Amanda) of Satellite Beach, FL; Jennifer Blackburn Thompson (David) of Cordele, GA; H. Carlton Blackburn (Kristen) of Statesboro, GA; and Leslie Blackburn Fitch (Taylor) of Rydal, GA. Great-grandchildren are Beau, Summer and Paige Gilhousen; Emily Hope Brophy; Austin and Autumn Farr; Lydia, Ben and Luke Thompson; Madi, Camden and Lily Blackburn; Olivia and Bennett Fitch.

She also had 5 step-grandchildren: Lisa Johnson Corner (Brad) of Jacksonville, FL; Tracey Johnson Columbus (Ed) of Palm Coast, FL; Nicole Johnson Mills (Mike) of Jacksonville, FL; Virginia Ponder (Perry) of Tallahassee; and Lesley Proctor (Robert) of Lithia, FL with 10 step great-grandchildren: Alecia and Ryan Corner; Eddie and Evan Columbus; Brittany and Zachary Mills; Peyton and Nicolas Ponder; Will and Grace Proctor.

She is also survived by nieces: June Mays Turner of Lakewood Ranch, FL; Julia Frances Mays Wood and Mary Ellen Mays Bryson (Walter) of Tallahassee; Carolyn Mays Cameron (David) of Keswick, VA; Melba Mays Maynard of Kissimmee and a nephew, Charles B. Mays (Mabel) of Brandon, FL.

The family wishes to extend thanks for easing her final time to Becky Blackburn, Doris and Glover Harris, Big Bend Hospice and the staff at Home Instead; with particular thanks to caregivers Julie Tharpe and Shanty Bryant.

Contributions may be made in her name to Trinity United Methodist Church - 120 W Park Ave, Tallahassee, FL 32301 or to Big Bend Hospice - 1723 Mahan Center Blvd, Tallahassee, FL 32308

To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.

Published by Tallahassee Democrat from Dec. 23 to Dec. 28, 2013.

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vivian hess

December 28, 2013

I have such great memories of Ellen and Les and they were a big part of my family's lives. Ellen had the greatest laugh and smile. We all went to Scotland years ago and every day was a delight with her. I am in Miami with son David for the holidays but will be with all of you in spirit. You were all blessed to have Ellen for so long. God Bless....Vivian Matthews Hess

Becky Blackburn

December 26, 2013

Granny you have been a big part of my life and I will truly miss you. I will miss our visits and talks and our weekly trips to publix. What a wonderful life you have lived. It is so amazing that you have been so independent and able to live by yourself at 99 years old there are not many who can say that.
I love you.

Noanne Gwynn

December 26, 2013

Jimmy, I was so sorry to just read of your mother's death. I have heard so many wonderful stories of her and her good nature. My thoughts are with you and Ramsay and your family.

Les & Terri Abstein

December 26, 2013

Jim: Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, we are sorry for your loss.
Les & Terri Abstein

Carolyn Cain

December 25, 2013

Carolyn, it was wonderful to see you at Culley's even under such regretful circumstances. You must have great memories but the pain of loss is still real. I wish you and Herb the best future possible in 2014.

Lorna McWatt

December 23, 2013

Dear Sandy, Larry and Emily, Our thoughts are with you, Craig, Lorna, Gordon and Jack

Kay Felton

December 23, 2013

Carolyn, Your dedication and love have been beyond measure. I'm glad we got to see her when we were there for the reunion. She raised perfect children, and now you have as well. May God's true love reside with you at all times. You have all bestowed many blessings on so many people !Kay Perloff Felton

Mildred Gresham

December 23, 2013

I worked with Ellen at the old Industrial Commission "a few years ago." She was a wonderful lady. I also knew her brother Bob. I lived in the same apartment house where he lived. He was a really nice person, also. I know you will miss her and I'm sorry for your loss. God Bless You all.

Tommy Barrett

December 23, 2013

What a wonderful and lovely lady. She was always smiling and full of life despite putting up with us young boys.

Wanda Timbs

December 23, 2013

Carl, I was so sorry to hear about your grandmother. Sounds like she had a wonderful life. Just know I will be thinking about you and my prayers will be for you and your family. I am sure you have made lots of memories. Love you and your precious family.

June Turner

December 23, 2013

What wonderful pictures. What a smile and countenance. I wasn't close as a niece should be but I do feel a lose.

Sam Ashton

December 23, 2013

Jimmy, sorry to hear about your mother. She was a sweet lady.

Steve Edwards and family

December 23, 2013

Please accept our sincere condolences.

Amalee Olive

December 23, 2013

Jimmy, so sorry to read of the loss of your mother. It's hard to let go of them but know that you have wonderful memories to hold onto. Keeping your family in my prayers. Amalee Olive

Recie Jenkins

December 23, 2013

She was a wonderful lady and I have many fun memories of her when I was a child. I know my mother and daddy were there to greet her at heaven's door.

Margie Johnson

December 23, 2013

Jimmy & Family, So sorry for the loss of your Mother, but you have many wonderful memories to cherish.

james smith

December 23, 2013

jimmy, sorrow turns to faith and the love u had for ur mother will never cease our prayers are with u james and vicki

Greg Wood

December 23, 2013

Jimmy and Family, So very sorry about your Mother. She had a full life and much to be thankful for. Please accept my sincere condolences.

Gail Fishman

December 23, 2013

My condolences on losing a sweet, kind lady. I hope she and my mother (Marie Tener) are getting together for a bridge game now.

ann & mike white

December 23, 2013

Carolyn, and family, we know this has been a hard time for your family. it's never easy regardless of how old they are. we recall meeting your mom when in Tallahassee 3 years ago (almost). she was delightful. may God bless you and your family as you go through this sad time!

Charlene Kuntz

December 22, 2013

So very glad to have met this wonderful woman who raised one of the greatest women I've ever know. Much love and many prayers to the family.

Lisa Corner

December 22, 2013

Granny, your light will shine in our hearts forever! We will miss you. Love Brad, Lisa, Alecia and Ryan

December 22, 2013

Loved going next door to visit Mrs. Parham as a small child. She always had something to feed me and to show me in her yard. I will never forget her kindness to me. Dottie Kidd

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