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James Selph Obituary
JAMES C. SELPH
AGE: 52 WHITING
James C. Selph, OD, 52, of Whiting, Manchester, died Thursday, Dec. 11, at Community Medical Center, Toms River. He was an optometric physician and owner of the Lakehurst Eye Care, Lakehurst since 1984. Born in Ft. Pierce, Fla., he lived in Jackson and Lakehurst before moving to Whiting five years ago. He was a member of the N.J. Optometric Associations for several years. He was a Den Leader and Cub Scout Master for Pack 10, Lakehurst. He was an avid fisherman and loved to build and fly radio controlled cars, airplanes and helicopters and was a communicant of St. John's Church, Lakehurst.
Surviving are his wife of 32 years, Susan G. Johnson Selph; his parents, James V. of St. Cloud, Fla., and Mary A Hons of Whiting; two sons, Jeremy C. and his fiancé Jamie Difedele, and Christopher J.; and a daughter, Bethany R. Selph, all of Whiting. He is also survived by two sisters, Jeanie L. Johnson and her husband Cliff of Jackson, and Tamie Zobel and her husband Glenn of Richmond, Va.; a granddaughter, Kaylee L. Selph; a goddaughter, Rebecca Mills of Waretown; and many nieces and nephews and many great-nieces and nephews.
Visitation will be from 2 to 4 p.m. and 7 to 9 p.m. Sunday at Oliverie Funeral Home, 2925 Ridgeway Road, Manchester. A Funeral Liturgy will be offered at 10 a.m. Monday at St. John's Church, Lakehurst, with interment to follow at Maplewood Cemetery, Freehold Township. In lieu of flowers, please make your donations to Van Dyke Hospice, 99 Route 37, Toms River, NJ 08755. For directions, or to send online condolences, please visit the funeral home's website at www.oliveriefuneralhome.com.
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Bethany Selph
March 30, 2016
I'm sad I didn't come across this page sooner. The kind words written about my father warm my heart even after all these years. Today is his birthday, he would have been 60! I like to imagine who he'd be today, and find myself seeing much of the same person he was just 8 years ago- goofy, kind, smart, and the best dad a girl could have.
Since I didn't say it 8 years ago, mainly because I couldn't say much at all, thank-you all for being there for him in life, and for us in our time of loss.
November 5, 2009
I had to write again to express how saddened I continue to be. I recently had my annual visit with Dr. Feiner, who came as a great reccomendation from your office. We both agreed you were taken too early. Although I receive great care from her, it's not always the same.
Jana England-Mylott
Joanne Batzel
May 18, 2009
To all of Jim's family, I send my sincere condolences. I was part of your family in a way, but also knew Jim from high school. I was saddened to hear of his passing just recently. I hope that you are all finding some peace in his memories. I am so sorry for your loss.
Love, Joanne Iacovelli Batzel
Bruce Gwynne
February 27, 2009
I only found out about Jim's passing when I drove by his office yesterday to check on hours and make an appointment. I was very saddened by the news even though or friendship was only based on my occasional check ups, and when I stopped in to order new contact lenses! It was always an event that I enjoyed as it always included a rousing debate about where the fish were currently biting, and a lecture from Jim on why I wasn't fishing enough on my boat. We talked on several occasions about going out fishing together but it never happened and now regrettably never will.
The whole family were patients of Dr Selph and we all always looked forward to our visits replete with his usual wit and insight on a whole host of subjects. When I told my daughter Kate last night of Dr Selph's passing she was very upset but it led to sharing among my wife Marge, Kate and I of Dr Selph stories. Kate recalled that he liked to talk so much that she would have to remind him that she was there for him to look in her eyes! My wife Marge, a chemist, liked to joust with Jim in a round of "beat this lab story" contest. Surely an egghead pursuit, but Jim loved it and so did Marge.
I could go on indefinitely but for now let's be thankful that we were blessed with the presence of such a wonderful person. Jim was someone I could call a friend and someone we will all miss. Please accept our deepest sympathy and respect.
Roger & Marie Street
January 13, 2009
Please accept our deep condolences. Just found out about Dr. Selph's passing. Our entire family have been patients for over 25 years and considered him a wonderful friend as well as doctor. He will be greatly missed. We will keep all of you in our thoughts and prayers.
Dexter Street
January 13, 2009
Susan, Please accept Carol Lee and my most humble and deepest sympathy upon hearing of Jim's death. Steve Stanek called me to tell me the bad news. We were deeply saddened upon hearing it. Time has gotten away from us, but the memories of our time together at PCO will always be cherished in our hearts. You and Jim were amoung our closest freinds, and I aplogize for not keeping in touch over the years. Jim was a unique fellow. His sense of humor and always positive outlook were refreshing especially during the trying times at school. Carol Lee and I especially enjoyed our get togethers and trips to New Jersey. Y'all made being away from home much easier with your warmth and generosity. Again, we are sorry for Jim's loss.
Sincerely, Dexter W. Street
Jana England-Mylott
January 9, 2009
I want to extend my deepest sympathy to the family for their loss. As many others, Dr. Selph was also treating me. I so many times gave his name, as I received superb time, attention, and care from him and his staff. I will never forget the quality of service received!
Christine Kwiatkowski
January 7, 2009
Please accept my most sincere condolences. Dr. Selph was my doctor since his office in the cute, little Lakehurst house. He became a friend and our visits included so many good conversations. His care of my eyes was exceptional, especially during 2 retina tears that he foretold over 20 years ago. His spirit and courage will always be an inspiration. God bless.
Daniel Glass
January 7, 2009
Susan, Please accept my condolences. Although I haven't kept in touch since PCO days I've often thought about the good times we had there in the Married Students Club. God bless you and your family.
Sue, Jim and some friends from PCO
January 6, 2009
Jim
Steven Stanek
January 5, 2009
Jim was the greatest friend a guy could have. He was extremely outgoing and generous. His mind was as sharp as a razor. I met him in Philadelphia, where he helped me make it through Optometry school in the early 1980s. In his short life, Jim accomplished more than most people. He became a doctor, started a successful, full-scope professional practice from scratch, and was a devoted husband, father and grandfather. In spite of his health, he always had a positive attitude and such a wonderful zest for life. He continues to be a tremendous inspiration to me and others. I am fortunate and proud to call him my friend. Go Raiders!
Kathy Morrison
December 20, 2008
To my brother-in-law, Jimmy. I have known you just about my whole life. Thank you for all that you ever did for me and my family. Thank you for making my sister happy and for bringing into this world, my beautiful nephews and niece. I'm glad Hannah and I were able to see you one last time before you left us for a much better place. Say hi to my dad and to Sonny for us. You will be missed. We love you.
Amy Schulze
December 15, 2008
"Uncle" Jimmy will be missed by myself, my partner Eugene Schmidt, and my three kids all of whom Jimmy gave first eye exams to! Such whit, kindness, and just a terrific guy! We are all better for having had him in our lives/families!
judson moon
December 15, 2008
great memories of Jim, such a great sense of humor, he will be missed
Larry Wallis, O.D.
December 15, 2008
A colleague who I was glad to call
a friend and who was instrumental
in helping to move our profession
forward. He will be missed.
Will Regan
December 13, 2008
You were a great inspiration and role model, Dr. Selph. And you kept very good care of my eyes for many years.
Dot Douglas
December 13, 2008
My condolences to the Selph family.Dr.Selph was a lovely man and will be missed by all who knew him.You are all in my pray's at this very hard time.Dot n Mike
Barbara Hamilton
December 13, 2008
Jim was one of the best men I knew, and he was a great inspiration to all of us. Everytime I thought life was getting a bit too hard, I'd look at him and keep going. Instead of cursing his fate or trading on his physical disabilities, he took care of his family, his friends, his town, and his patients with genuine concern and outer-directedness. He will always be in my heart and his memory will live on for all of us. God bless you, Mary, Sue, Jeremy, Christopher, and Bethany.
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