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Thomas Sanders Carpenter CPCU Obituary

Thomas Sanders Carpenter, CPCU

October 9, 1930 - April 17, 2025

Charlotte, North Carolina - Thomas Sanders Carpenter, CPCU, a retired insurance executive, died April 17 in Charlotte, North Carolina, at the age of 94. He was the son of the late Thomas S. Carpenter Jr. and Hope D. Carpenter of Crescent City, Florida. After both of his parents died separately in the 1930s, Tom and his siblings, Jane and Bill, were raised by their aunt and uncle, Dorothy C. and Henry S. Beers of West Hartford and Glastonbury, Connecticut. The three Beers children, Hank, Liz and Jack, welcomed their Carpenter cousins into their home and they all lived together for their formative years. All of the children were treated and loved equally and given the same opportunities in life.

Tom attended the Junior School as a youngster, followed by the Kingswood School, Loomis Institute (now Loomis Chaffee), Hamilton College, Infantry Officer Candidate School at Fort Benning, Georgia and the Medical Field Service School at Fort Sam Houston, Texas, and completed numerous advanced management courses. It was during his tour of duty as a young Army officer in a stateside assignment during the Korean War that he first experienced the joys and challenges of leadership.

One of the happiest events of Tom's life was his 1954 marriage to Anne Elizabeth Pease of West Hartford. He joined Aetna Life and Affiliated Companies (now Aetna Inc.) after his military service and he and Anne lived in Atlanta before moving to Charlotte in 1957. They found the perfect place to live and raise a family. Tom and Anne thoroughly enjoyed watching the football games, basketball games, track meets, baseball games and horse shows in which their children competed.

Tom held a number of increasingly responsible positions within Aetna before assuming the position of general manager of the Charlotte Field Office in 1968. With a group of young associates, Tom transformed an average property and casualty insurance operation into one of Aetna's largest and most influential field organizations. He was relentless in his desire to build a better business and hire the best and most ambitious young men and women, and he followed their careers for his entire life.

Tom headed most of the property and casualty insurance organizations in the Carolinas over the course of his career, including serving as chairman of the Governing Committees of the North Carolina Rate Bureau and the North Carolina Reinsurance Facility. He also received numerous honors and awards, but his favorites were the Lifetime Achievement Award, presented in 2002 by the Independent Insurance Agents of North Carolina, and the 1974 National Industrial Softball Championship, won by Aetna's Charlotte office team that he managed at the end of his playing career. He was thrilled when the National Society of Chartered Property Casualty Underwriters established the Thomas S. Carpenter CPCU Leadership Award, which recognizes insurance professionals for their commitment to leadership and insurance education. Tom founded the Central Carolinas CPCU Chapter in 1962 and over the years had encouraged more than 100 employees, independent agents and competitors to professionalize their careers by earning the coveted CPCU designation. Away from his desk, he thrived on the competition and fellowship at Quail Hollow Club, where he was a member for nearly 60 years.

In late 1988, Tom accepted an assignment to move back to Connecticut to upgrade and revitalize Aetna's property and casualty domestic field organization. He and Anne were excited to return to West Hartford to renew old friendships and live in a neighborhood near where they both lived as youngsters. As part of that assignment, he traveled extensively throughout the U.S., speaking to insurance groups across the country on issues affecting the insurance industry and the public. After retiring from Aetna in 1993, he accepted a two-year assignment with the American International Group to expand its distribution system and move into new markets. Unfortunately, Anne died of breast cancer in 1996 and Tom retired permanently a few months later.

After a courtship of several years, Tom found happiness again and in 2003 married the lovely Gretchen Marsh Johnston, whom he loved and adored. Her children, grandchildren and friends were an important part of their life together.

Tom is survived by Gretchen, who was absolutely his best friend; son Tom and his wife Beth; daughter Laura C. Tucker; son Rob and granddaughter Abigail; and his brother Bill's widow, Patricia Carpenter. His also survived by Gretchen's children and grandchildren, whom he loved as if they were his own: Hunter, Jamie, Bess, Jack and Molly McLawhorn; Melinda, Calhoun, Cal and Gretchen McMeekin; Amy, Meg and Hunter Sabo; and Katherine Johnston. He will also be fondly remembered by 13 nephews, nieces and cousins.

A service to celebrate Tom's life will be held Thursday, April 24 at 2 p.m. at Myers Park Presbyterian Church in Charlotte. The family will receive friends in Oxford Hall following the service

In lieu of flowers, donations in Tom's memory can be sent to Wee Kirk Presbyterian Church, where all funds are dedicated to improving the lives of underprivileged mountain children. The address is P.O. Box 702, Linville, NC 28646.

Arrangements are in the care of Kenneth W. Poe Funeral & Cremation Service, 1321 Berkeley Avenue, Charlotte, NC 28204 (704) 641-7606. Online condolences may be shared at www.kennethpoeservices.com.

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Published by Charlotte Observer from Apr. 19 to Apr. 23, 2025.

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Phil Capling

May 19, 2025

Tom was a valued leader in the Charlotte Office of Aetna where I had the pleasure of meeting and working for him. He was always caring, forthright, honest. He provided valuable career guidance for many people, including me. Very hardworking, Tom set a work ethic example for all of us. He will be missed.

Wayne Gibson

May 10, 2025

I just now learned of Tom's passing. He was one of the most important people in my life. He hired me, mentored me, encouraged me and provided opportunities for me for which I will forever be grateful. Military service, Aetna and Tom Carpenter changed a trajectory of my career for the better and my family has benefited by his mentorship. Go rest high my friend. You will forever be remembered.

Wayne Gibson

Mark Bowron

April 23, 2025

May peace be with Mr. Carpenter and all who love him. Tom and Beth, Jennifer and I send you our love and pray for God's glory to be with your Dad and your family today and forever more.

Marcia Wood

April 22, 2025

I remember TC, as those who worked for/ with him refered to him, with respect and love. He was a mentor to so many and my life was shaped by his guidance. His passing leaves a very large space to be filled.
Marcia Mooney Wood

Mark and Bonnie

April 20, 2025

Tom and Gretchen were our best friends. We had many fun times together. We met many Monday nights at our favorite restaurant in Charlotte.

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