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Capt. Harry R. Ackley Sr.

1943 - 2020

Capt. Harry R. Ackley Sr. obituary, 1943-2020, Fairfield, CT

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Harry Ackley Obituary

Capt. Harry R. Ackley, Sr.
Harry R. Ackley, Sr, Captain, Fairfield Fire Department (Ret.) age 77, of Fairfield, passed away peacefully Monday, November 23, 2020 surrounded by his beloved wife Karen and his loving family. Born September 2, 1943 in Bridgeport, the son of the late Harry W. and Rita Neupert Ackley, he had been a lifelong Fairfield resident. A graduate of Notre Dame High School, Capt. Ackley proudly served in the U.S. Navy during the Vietnam War. He was a Plank Owner and member of the commissioning crew of the USS Davidson (DE-1045) where he extended his enlistment an extra six months to complete his ship's deployment to the Tonkin Gulf providing fire support for U.S. Troops. He was a proud member of the "Tonkin Gulf Yacht Club." Following his military service, Capt. Ackley began his successful 36 year career with the Fairfield Fire Department. Capt. Ackley received a BS Degree in Municipal Fire Administration from the University of New Haven and an Associate's of Science degree in Fire Protection Technology from Hartford State Technical College. He was also a 50 plus year member of the Southport Volunteer Fire Department. Capt. Ackley served as Fire Marshal for the Town of Fairfield for many years prior to his retirement in 2000. He held certification as a Fire Marshal, Fire Investigator, Fire Instructor II, Incident Command Instructor and Hazardous Materials First Responder. He was a CT State Fire Marshal for over 12 years. Capt. Ackley was past Director of Training for the Fairfield Regional Fire Rescue Training School, and an Emergency Medical Service Instructor. He was trained by the Bureau of Alcohol and Tobacco in Advanced Fire and Explosives Investigation and was a Certified Fire Protection Specialist and a former adjunct faculty member of the National Fire Academy and Emergency Management Institute. He served as program Director for the Highway Rescue Program for the Technical Colleges for 10 years and was an EMS Coordinator and Instructor. Capt. Ackley served as an adjunct faculty member for the Norwalk Community Technical College teaching for the CT State Fire School and Fire Science Degree programs for over 20 years. He retired as Director of Life Safety for the Greater New York Health Care Facilities Association, was Past President of the Fairfield and New Haven County Fire Marshal's Association, Past Trustee of the Fairfield County Fire Chief's Emergency Plan, member National Fire Protection Assoc. and the New York City Fire Directors Assoc. Captain Ackley served on the New York City Mayor's Residential Health Care Facilities Task Force/Office of Emergency Management, as Fire Safety Consultant for The Church of the Resurrection and on the Fire Science Advisory Council at Norwalk Community Technical College as well as being an adjunct faculty member teaching Codes & Standards, Fire Prevention and Inspection, Fire Protection Systems and Fire Sprinkler Systems and Water Flow, Fire Service Management and Hydraulics. Capt. Ackley was also deeply involved and dedicated to the Fairfield Community. He was a former member of the Fairfield Jaycees where he was awarded Jaycee of the Year and the Jaycee Distinguished Service Award, was a former member of the Fairfield Rotary Club where he was the recipient of the Paul Harris Fellowship, and in 1979 was recognized by Gov. Ella Grasso as Outstanding Young Man of Connecticut. He was honored by the Fairfield Board of Realtors with their "Making Fairfield Better" Award and the Fairfield Fire Department awarded Capt. Ackley with the Fire Commissioners Achievement Award. Capt. Ackley served as a Fairfield Town Constable, Justice of the Peace, Fairfield Special Police and was elected to the RTM for 5 terms. He was appointed to the Fairfield Fire Commission in November 2017 and is currently serving a one year term as Chairman that began in December 2019. He served as Commissioner of the Fairfield Housing Authority and was a member of the Tomlinson Building Committee, The Mill Hill School, Holland Hill School and Riverfield School Building Committees. He served as Chairman of the Barnum Festival Fairfield Day for 11 years, Chairman of the Fairfield Condemnation Board, member of the YMCA Board of Managers, Director of the Fairfield Recycling Center, member of the Special Olympics Training Committee and Deputy Director of Emergency Management and Boys Scout District Commissioner and Council and Fire/Rescue Explorer Advisor and the served on the Fairfield Town Facilities Planning Commission. He was member of the Knights of Columbus, 4th Degree for over 55 years and an active parishioner and Eucharistic Minister and Usher at St. Pius X Church. Capt. Ackley served as a Marshal for the State of Connecticut and was Past President of the CT State Marshal Organization and served on the Advisory Board and was a former team leader in the State Marshal's Capias/Warrants Unit. Following the tragic attacks on 9/11, Capt. Ackley volunteered for months in the rescue and recovery efforts at Ground Zero in Manhattan.
Captain Ackley is survived by his beloved wife and best friend, Karen Dumas Ackley whom he was set up with on a blind date over 31 years ago and have been inseparable ever since. Their greatest joy is their children and 8 grandchildren. He is also survived by his loving daughters, Amy Conroy and her husband Brian of Sandy Hook, Alicia Millington and her husband Alfred of Trumbull; two sons, Edward Ackley and his wife Aimee of Porter Corners, NY and Sean Ackley of Fairfield. He was Grandpa to his 8 wonderful grandkids: Annabelle and Jack Conroy, David Riley, Emelyn and Kendall Millington, Gabriela and Ian Ackley, and his namesake, Harry R. Ackley, III of Milford; his sister, Rose Markoja, and his brother and best friend, Westport Fire Chief (ret.), Christopher Ackley and his wife Jill. Harry is survived by his wife's family whom he was very close to: in-laws, Gene and Pat Dumas, Rick Dumas, Kevin Dumas and his fiancée Paula, Tom Dumas and his wife Shari, Pamela Della Torre and her husband Bob; nieces and nephews: Kevin, Patrick and Kylie Dumas, Matt and Zack Dumas, Steven Markoja and his wife Jenn , Teresa Markoja, Alysse and Mark Della Torre. He was predeceased by his beloved son, Harry (Randy), Jr.; a nephew, Scott Della Torre, and by his first wife, Barbara Sabo Ackley.
A walk through visitation will be held Friday, November 27, 2020 from 3-7 p.m. at ST. PIUS X CHURCH, 834 Brookside Drive, Fairfield. Social distancing and face masks will be required. Due to Covid restrictions, Capt. Ackley's Mass will be held privately at St. Pius X Church on Saturday at 11 a.m. The funeral Mass will be streamed and can be viewed on the St. Pius X Church Facebook page as well as on the St. Pius YouTube page at St. Pius X Church rb.gy. Military Honors will be rendered following the Mass. Interment will be private. In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made to Swim Across the Sound, 2800 Main St., Bridgeport, CT 06606. "No man hath any greater love than this, that he should lay down his life for his friends." Any man who may be asked in this century, what he did to make his life worthwhile, can respond with a good deal of Pride and Satisfaction, "I served in the United States Navy."



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Published by Connecticut Post on Nov. 24, 2020.

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Bill Marks

February 1, 2021

I just don’t understand. No-one spoke to me of this life long friend being ill. He asked me to meet his wife at lady FFD gathering but I got way-layer. Please would love to speak with Karen now

William Bernhard

December 5, 2020

Harry will certainly be missed by all. I worked overtimes while I was with the FFD with him. We were on different shifts. He was fearless.

James Benson Jr

November 29, 2020

my heart goes out to the family , keep your heads up and thoughts positive during this difficult time . Mr. Ackley (as we called him growing up ) was a good hearted man always willing to help always kind .

Sylvia

November 28, 2020

It was such fun spending time with Harry, Karen and family the last trip to California! We laughed, went to church, ate, and got to know what a good heart and kind soul Harry was.
He remembered his brothers and their wives back home needing prayer, and requested prayers for them. Always thinking of those who needed help.
Now, God is holding him close to his heart saying; “Well done my good and faithful servant, well done my son.”
We lost a great human being, heaven gained an Angel.
I can’t say goodbye, just see you in bit.
Love and hugs,
Sylvia Bleck

Richard Krueger

November 28, 2020

I am extreme happy that I got to know & work with Harry
A nicer person you every could meet

Son

November 27, 2020

Fair winds and following seas.

Kathryn Conroy

November 27, 2020

Our thoughts are with you as you all go through this tough time. Lots of love.

Joe Newberg

November 27, 2020

I was Harry's Division Officer on the USS Davidson in 1966-67. He was a very pleasant, dedicated, good natured, hard working sailor. I had the pleasure of running into him and his brother Chris at a Davidson reunion in San Diego in 1913. We swapped stories and caught up on our lives. Wonderful time. I have attached a photo of the two of us at that event. My deepest condolences to Karen, Chris, and the rest of Harry's family. He was a true gentleman. Wish I had known him better.

Carmen Brackett and Ray vlader

November 27, 2020

As the days and weeks pass, and as you return to life's routine, may you continue to feel comforted by the love and support of family and friends.

The Fairfield YMCA Staff

November 27, 2020

We were so sorry to hear about Harry's passing. His efforts to make our community better were greatly appreciated. Our best wishes to your family during this difficult time.

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Randall Shanks

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Becky Ostrofsky O'Connell

November 26, 2020

Our thoughts and prayers to the Ackley family! Harry was a special man who reached so many people through his wonderful list of activities and volunteerism. I always enjoyed working with Harry on the Fairfield Day Committee. Harry will be missed by all. God Bless you all, be well and stay safe.

Ken Bleck

November 26, 2020

May God be with Harry as he enters Heaven. And may God comfort Karen and all family members with the knowledge that Harry is right where he is meant to be. We will join him when our time comes. May God bless Harry’s family.

Martin Hunt

November 25, 2020

Smooth sailing to your next duty station. God Bless.

Monsignor Blase Gintoli

November 25, 2020

Dear Karen and family. I was saddened to learn of Harry’s passing. I was blessed to have known him from our high school days and then again when I served alongside him as Chaplain to the Fairfield Fire Dept. He was always quite the character! I certainly hope God has a sense of humor when Harry enters those pearly gates!
I will celebrate Mass for the repose of his soul. My prayers are also with you during this difficult time of your loss.

Wally Thomas, DC, BFD, Ret.

November 25, 2020

From my Rookie Training at Fairfield's Fire Training Grounds, through on-going training throughout my career on the Bridgeport Fire Department, to Fairfield County Fire Chiefs Emergency Plan meetings, I knew and worked with Harry. He was a good man, and will be missed.

Tami Murphy Thurston

November 25, 2020

I can’t express how sad I am to hear that our “Whackey Ackley” is gone. He was a great friend to our family. He may only have been department family but he was so much more to me. We have lost a great friend and will miss his smile.

John hennessey

November 25, 2020

A Legend has passed .l always smiled when we met because Harry was everywhere! I never met a man who was so involved in the community and that could never say no to helping others. I’ll miss him.

Jennifer Hochberg Toller

November 25, 2020

I first met Harry at the RTM, and then I had the good fortune of working alongside him at the Mill Hill School Building Committee as its recording secretary. One of the nicest, and with a fun sense of humor! Harry served the town of Fairfield well, and he will be missed greatly by so many. My condolences to his family. Godspeed..... #respect

Fritz and Sharon Warnstedt

November 25, 2020

Condolences to the Akley family, We knew about Harry through his beautiful wife Karen a long time friend and class mate from Jonathan Law high school. Harry was the Love of her life and Best friend, he will be missed. The Warnstedts.

Gerry Stopa

November 25, 2020

Harry was a great guy and a great friend my thoughts and prayers are with you all

Jason F. Mallette

November 24, 2020

Holly and I would like to extend our heartfelt sympathies to Karen and all of Harry's family. He was a great man and taught me well. Jason

Del & Mike Ciemnoczolowski

November 24, 2020

Our thoughts and prayers are with you and all your loved ones during this difficult time. Karen, you guys were always so much fun to be with at our Mason Reunions. We are so blessed to have been able to call Harry a friend.

Frank Docimo

November 24, 2020

Harry was one on the first fire trainer I meet as a recruit. He was an excellent instructor and always was on top of his game. A firefighters ...firefighter. God Speed my friend. Frank Docimo, Stamford Fire and Rescue.

Joyce and Dan Ouellette

November 24, 2020

May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.

Eternal Affection Arrangement- BASKET INCLUDED

Charles Cole

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Richard B Mangiamele

November 24, 2020

Karen & Family, Our deepest sympathy during this time of great loss. Harry was an amazing person and we will all miss him so much.We had the pleasure of being your next door neighbors for 30 years.We will miss his smile and waves and catching up over the fence.He was such a giving person and we were blessed by all he gave us. We were both Fire Dept families and shared the good and the sad that comes with the job. May all your wonderful memories of Harry help to comfort you in the days ahead. Love, Rick,Patty and Brian Mangiamele

Steve Twigg

November 24, 2020

To Karen and Family
I would like to extend our deepest condolences. It was an honor to have know Harry.

Colleen Madore

November 24, 2020

Michael and I, are deeply sorry for the loss of your beloved Harry. May your memories together, bring you comfort and peace.

Mike Harris

November 24, 2020

To Karen, Chris, and all of Harry's family, Jan and I extend our deepest condolences. May Harry's memory always be a blessing.

Jim Gallagher

November 24, 2020

Karen & Family... it was my honor to have known and worked with Harry on several Town projects. I wish you love and peace

The Staff of Spear-Miller Funeral Home

November 24, 2020

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