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David Carlyle Boykin of Arlington Heights since 1975 David Carlyle Boykin, 74. Born on January 9, 1939 in Akron, Ohio to the late Grover Carlyle and Mildred Boykin, David Carlyle Boykin passed away on Friday, May 3 surrounded by his family at the Midwest Palliative & Hospice CareCenter in Arlington Heights. David grew up as the eldest of five children in Center Line, Mich., a Detroit suburb, where he became a fan of R&B, Doo Wop and blues music. After earning a bachelor's degree from Oakland University in 1964 when it was affiliated with Michigan State University, David began working at the U.S. Railroad Retirement Board (RRB) in Chicago, where he met his wife and soul mate, Catharine, in a training class. In January, the couple celebrated 45 years of loving marriage. On their first date, they attended a Grant Park Music Festival concert, and they continued to delight in these summer concerts and other cultural and civic opportunities throughout their time together - especially since his retirement from the RRB in 2004. He retired with 43 years of federal government service, including his years working the overnight shift at the U.S. Postal Service during college. An avid genealogist, David spent precious time tracing ancestral roots and would spark when explaining how these connections tied us all together. His detective work in genealogy provided the ideal hobby for him as it combined his deep love of reading, history and family. David pleasured in his role as a HODAR, or husband of the Daughters of the American Revolution (DAR) and later discovered his own family connections enabled him to join the Sons of the American Revolution (SAR). A real highlight of his life was an appearance on the PBS series "Antiques Roadshow." David also was a voracious reader who endeavored to stay updated on current events and politics. A lifetime learner, he enjoyed new technology, such as Skyping with his granddaughters and "liking" things on Facebook. David was a wonderful, kind and gentle father with an optimistic spirit who loved to share and explore life with his three children, leading them on cross-country car trips to the West and East coasts, and joining the Trail Mates, Indian Guides and Indian Princess father-child programs through the YMCA. He would proudly don a college sweatshirt or T-shirt of his children's respective alma maters whenever he visited with each of them. In recent years, he showered his granddaughters with the same love and support. David earned a master of business administration from Loyola University Chicago, and master of administrative science from the University of Illinois at Chicago. David is survived by his beloved wife of 45 years, Catharine Boykin; his loving children, Ann Carlyle Boykin of Washington, D.C., Samuel Epes Turner (Antha Williams) Boykin of New York and Rebecca Ames Boykin of Chicago; his cherished granddaughters, Azalie Ames and Maja Sparrow Boykin-Williams; brothers, Jerry (Dr. Kit Cauble) Boykin of Virginia and Donald Boykin of Evanston; sisters-in-law and brother-in-law; and many nieces and nephews. David was preceded in death by his parents; brother, Philip Boykin; sister, Jeanne Boykin; his beloved aunts; his brother-in-law; and nephews, John Philip Mathieson and Nathaniel Lynch. A memorial service will be scheduled this summer. Arrangements were made by Ahlgrim Family Funeral Services in Palatine. In lieu of flowers, memorials would be appreciated for Memorial Park c/o Arlington Heights Park Foundation, 410 N. Arlington Heights Road, Arlington Heights, IL 60004; the Eli Skinner Chapter, National Society Daughters of the American Revolution, c/o 1215 Brandywyn Lane, Buffalo Grove, IL 60089; and WTTW Channel 11 (PBS) (www.wttw.com).

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Published by Daily Herald from May 10 to May 11, 2013.

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Laura Olund

June 24, 2013

Dear Beautiful Boykin Family,
You are all wonderful phenomenal people and I can see Uncle Dave's positive light in you. I meant to write something sooner, but I've had loss for words and I was hoping to write something poetic, comforting and soothing on the unexpected passing of your husband, your dad, and our uncle. The memorial service for Uncle Dave was truly perfect (well as perfect as a circumstance like that can be)... The service was a lovely tribute to his life and the awesome, wonderful, caring, patient, kind, gentle, giving, generous and all around great man, father, husband, brother, uncle and just fantastic person he was… it is so special to see how many lives he positively and lovingly touched (and it was so many). I will be forever thankful and grateful that I was able to celebrate Easter this year with you all and Uncle Dave. Ever caring, ever patient and kind, I know I'm a better person and I feel truly blessed for having known and loved Uncle Dave. Uncle Dave will always have a special place in our hearts full of happy memories of times shared together (especially during our loud and boisterous Turner Family gatherings, I will always be able to picture his smile and hear his laugh. Wish I could do or say more, sending you more hugs and lots of love.

I love you,
Niece/Cuz Laura (and Dotty, Lloyd, Liz and Lesley)

Francis (Monty) Beauchamp

June 10, 2013

Dave & I were charter classmates at MSUO, so named at the time. He was also older than the typical freshman, as was I, so we sort of melded in some experiences. I thought he had a dry, subtle sense of humor so we often enjoyed disparaging the school which was warranted at the time.
I told Dave that upon graduation, I had decided to return to CA (had been there in the US Navy)since career opportunities were far greater there than in Detroit & SE Michigan. I invited Dave to go with me.
We departed on Jan.2, 1964 for San Francisco stopping in Las Cruces, NM to visit a classmate, Paul Garlic, who,as I recall, had obtained a math teaching position at the Univ. there.
We both enjoyed the "Old West" environment as only the main street was paved. The wind blows often there so we had dust in our breakfast cereal from the secondary streets.
We reached San Francisco without incident and promptly found work at the Redwood Hotel in Redwood City, just South of SF. Dave was washing dishes and cooking pots in a corner restaurant, no larger than an average living room, while I did maintenance work in the hotel.
Since Dave was more reserved, academic and administrative than I, job opportunities were more restrictive. He soon tired of hearing that he, with his college degree, was either over-qualified or hadn't been in the area long enough, so he returned to MI. I was disappointed but understood.
He and I kept in communication over the years, following family and careers. He & Kathy had missed visiting us in Aug. 2011 for our 50th anniv. when flood waters in the Midwest interrupted train travel West.
Of course, while planning to attend the 50th reunion at Oakland U this fall, I was looking forward to seeing Dave & Kathy. Surely, he will be missed at the reunion however, I hope to rekindle his spirit and sense of humor. Dave was well-known and well-liked among the charter class members.

Andrea Oken

June 3, 2013

I new Dave in my early years at the RRB. He was a very kind and gentle person. My condolences to his family.

Marva Harden

May 24, 2013

Dave and I retired the same year. He was a good person to know. My condolences to the family.

Brenda McGee

May 23, 2013

My condolences to the family. I am an employee at the Railroad Retirement Board and David was my first manager at the RRB. He was a kind, warm, and gentle person.

Brian Kilmnick

May 22, 2013

David was a good friend.
He left much too soon.
The world is lessened by his passing.

Imelda Paraiso

May 22, 2013

I just found out this morning and I couldn't believe it. He was kind, nice, and good person I've ever known. He always greet you with a big smile. God Bless you Dave! You'll be missed!

"Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life, and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever." Psalm 23:6

Lee D. Holmes

May 22, 2013

My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.

Pat Henaghan

May 21, 2013

I knew Dave from my early days in Retirement Claims and always enjoyed his gentle humor. We would occasionally meet in later years and always feel a connection. I was honored to know this kind man.

Jim McCoy

May 21, 2013

When I heard of Dave's passing, I was very saddened. I worked with Dave at the RRB for way over 30 years. Whenever we got together in the hallway or meetings, or whatever, we always shared whatever was on our minds at the time. Dave will be missed by everyone who knew him God bless all of you.

Todd Lynch

May 17, 2013

I have so many memories of times with Uncle Dave - showing me the sights and special places in Chicago, rooting for the Cubbies, voyaging down to Springfield, visiting in Philadelphia, learning the stories of our family heritage and ancestry. I remember Dave's smile and his wry jokes. I remember his kindness and thoughtfulness and warmth. 

Whenever I was in town,  Dave made time for me and always had great stories to tell. His love for his family was  tangible and he would always go out of his way to be helpful however he could. 

I am so sad at his passing, and things won't be the same without him. At the same time, I know that he has left behind much good in the world, a wonderful and close knit family, a life well-lived, and the preservation of historical knowledge. I like to imagine him rubbing elbows now with the pilgrims, patriots, and predecessors that he used to research so avidly. I'm sure he will have a great time swapping stories.

May 14, 2013

Cathy,

I just learned of Dave's death. I was saddened. I enjoyed our many years of association at the RRB in the Medicare section. My first plane ride ever was with him when we went to Springfield, MA to review Medicare claims. He was a wonderful man. My heart goes out to you.

Rodger Liggett

Lindsey Bass

May 10, 2013

I am so sorry Ann and family. I always knew Mr. Boykin to be so kind and patient and such a great Dad. We are thinking of you, knowing you have such wonderful memories of good times together.

May 10, 2013

We are sorrowful for your loss and joyful to read about the beautiful memories your family has. Marianne and Joe Rivkin

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