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JOHN SPAHR Obituary

LTC John C. Spahr

LTC John C. Spahr of San Diego, CA died May 2, 2005 over Iraq.

He was the son of Eileen (Kelly) Spahr of Cherry Hill, NJ and the late Ronald C. Spahr, and was a 1981 graduate of St. Joseph's Prep and a 1988 graduate of the University of Delaware with a Master of Science degree in physiology.

In addition to his mother, survivors include his beloved daughter, Chandler Marie; his sisters, Kelly A. Sutter (Frederick) of Annapolis, MD, Sabrina M. Lawrence (David) of Medford, NJ, Tracy S. Harrington (Brian) of Baltimore, MD; and his brother, Stephen P. Spahr (Maria) of Havertown, PA.

Relatives and friends are invited to visitation from 9-11:15 am on Tuesday, May 17th, at St. Thomas of Villanova Church (Villanova University main campus), Ithan & Lancaster Ave. (Rt.30), where a funeral mass will be offered at 11:30. Interment will be at 10:30 am on Wednesday, May 18th, in Arlington National Cemetery with full military honors.

Contributions may be made in John's memory to the John C. Spahr '81 Memorial Fund at St. Joseph's Prep School, 1733 W. Girard Ave., Philadelphia, PA 19130. Arrangements by

D'ANJOLELL MEMORIAL HOME, Broomall, PA

www.danjolell.com

610-356-4200

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Published by The News Journal on May 12, 2005.

Memories and Condolences
for JOHN SPAHR

108 Entries

Chuck Sharkey

September 13, 2024

I just wanted John's family to know that I think of him all the time. John and I were teammates at The Prep (Basketball and Baseball). In the spring we would go to baseball practice then take the subway down to 4th and Shunk to play in the Spring Basketball League. Time was short and we would do our homework while waiting, eating or commuting. I remember thinking how this was both cool and hard to go to school all day then baseball practice, then a basketball game only to get home and finish whatever homework was left. Then I'd think about John. John also sculled with the crew team early in the morning prior to school and I'd realize John was much cooler and worked much harder. He remains a hero of mine. I tell the above to people all the time. God Bless John and his Family. Your Teammate, Chuck Sharkey, PREP 1980, CAPT, USNR (Ret)

Craig Weaver

May 31, 2021

I didn't know John but he is forever in my memories from my OIF deployment. I was the part of the team that found him in the desert outside of FOB Duke after the sandstorm the night before. I assisted in the recovery of his body and we ensured that it was done honorable and respectful. I later confirmed his identity with the Navy by going through his personal flight equipment and finding JS etched into his flashlight.
I just wanted to let his family and friends know that I'm forever grateful to have been a part of his recovery and I will always remember and honor his courage and commitment to our great country and his sacrifice for our freedom
Never Forget
COL(R) Craig Weaver
US Army

Grateful American

May 23, 2019

I received Lt. Col. Spahr's name on an In Memorium card for Memorial Day at NGA. I am heartbroken for his family's loss, and tears have been streaming down my face here at work as I read the touching memories of him. I hope it gives you some comfort to know that his sacrifice and your loss has not been forgotten. God bless you!

Mike Cederholm

May 2, 2016

Had the opportunity to visit John's grave today to pay my respects to one of the finest men I have had the opportunity to meet. Hard to imagine his passing was eleven years ago. I would like his Family to know I pray for John every Sunday...and they are all in my prayers today.

Semper Fidelis,
Mike Cederholm

August 5, 2015

Rest in Peace Col. Spahr!

May 26, 2015

Thought of you yesterday. Talked to my kids again about you and all the sacrifices that are made so we can live the way we do. I'll never forget. Patrice McConnell Curley

Brian Brady

May 25, 2015

Another Memorial Day passes without you John and many, many people are poorer in spirit because you're gone.

May 27, 2014

Thinking of you this May and every Memorial Day. You are missed. We will never forget. Patrice McConnell Curley

May 25, 2014

Hi John,I love ya and miss your laugh and smile but you are always alive in my life and in the lives of those great people that knew you they and I will never forget you you your we're so kind and nice simply a great guy love ya. I love all those who have taken the time to talk about you with the great memories they have of DUKES, Sabrina Spahr Lawrence :))))). Tx you everyone keep the John ball up in the air!

Brian Brady

May 22, 2014

Remembering you a lot this 2014 Memorial Day weekend, John.

Chad Menossi

November 24, 2013

Sir,
I will never forget the day I checked in with the S-3 shop of 1/4 following my bike wreck. You always had motivating things to say and always seemed to find the best in a Marine and encouraging them to be and do their best. Working with you was a pleasure and a great learning experience. I will also never forget the day that I took some time off of work at the Palm Springs Air Port and tour the air museum they have. I walked up and saw your memorial plane sitting there and was awestruck, then I saw your name, once again awestruck. My heart sank and I was in shock for a while afterwards. I will always remember you and you still inspire me to this day.

joe Griffith

May 28, 2013

Hey John, Family, and his enormous circle of friends, just wanted you to know, though I'm sure you do, that not only on this day do I think of you, but on so many days. It used to give me pause to reflect why, but not anymore, just why in so many different circumstances, good, bad, happy sad, not just in the last 8 plus years but also in the 30 plus years since you left the prep and our paths took their course, that I think of you and the subtle, valuable, lessons you taught the unteachable (me) just by your example; never with boisterous words, just by un-waivering example of you doing the right thing no matter how easy it would've been to not. In fact, I can't ever recall you raising your voice or losing your cool even in the most crazy of circumstances. You were an everyday hero in how you always did the right thing, practiced the right way, always did your best, always put in the time when nobody was watching - and encouraged, but never pushed others (especially me) to just try doing a little extra. So, my fellow new jersey commuter to the Prep, teammate and friend, I take great pride in relating stories of you and what a hero you are. I still can completely feel how my spirit was shaken and what disbelief I had when I first heard. Then, somehow I thought of Frost's "Natures First Green is Gold" and I took comfort in knowing that you will, truly, always be Gold. Thank you for everything you probably never even knew.

adam emanuel

May 26, 2013

John,

I miss ya brother... I remember us two guys taking chandler and melanea to the zoo together when they where about a year old. What a mess!!! Now Melanea is going into the airforce next month. I look at her and I think of you. You were a great dad and how unfair it is that I have gotten to see my daughter grow up. You were by far the best person I have met in my life. I will never forget you and yes... "it's Dukes tour" :) I really do love you dukes and I'll see ya soon!

Adrienne Young (Lewis)

June 19, 2012

Just sitting here reflecting on my Marine Corps days and the squadrons I served in. When I think of the Black Knights I immediately think about Major Spahr (Dukes). He was the best AAMO I ever worked with because he was a great listener. Although, listening is a great quality, I would say his best quality was his humor. He was very very funny. I loved the way he used to taunt the CW02. I could watch that Laurel and Hardy act all day. Dukes you are missed.

Peggy Childers

May 2, 2012

To the family and friends of Lt. Col. John C. Spahr:
Always remembering John. "Some gave all."

May 2, 2012

Hi John, it's me, Sabrina, I'm on the cliff of crying, and keep shaking it off so I won't, said out loud "come on back" thinking, ring the door bell, raining out today, two tears in a race on my face now, what can I say. Keeping the "John Ball" alive, St. Joe's Prep contacted me, they are going to do a disply case, (OK you find that funny :)) about you, Dukes, I picked a good spot in the Main Entrance, I asked the nice young student if I can put the Top Gun cigar in the case... it's a go :), it's gonna look great, I decided to make it like you would want, a place for the STUDENTS to look and get motivated to be the best for themselves and others, a Man for Others, and to think of guys like you, and other great men when the going gets rough, to drawn strenght to go that extra mile, to do that thing they "think" they can't, to win the race for themselves and others AND to Honor those like you who died to keep us from harm. Just thought of Capt. Kelly "Trash" Hinz, that was you reminding me of him, so here's to another year of doing our best to Honor you 2 great guys, GREAT MARINES. If any of your Marine buddies or others, friends, family etc., anyone who has a "John Story" love to hear them, all of them, please go to this site when the spirit hits you and write. thanks, as I would sign off to you John, see ya, Sabrina (Spahr) the Great ;) LOVE YOU BROTHER

Edwin Campbell

May 2, 2012

Col Spahr, It has been many years since you have left us. But you are not forgotten i wanted to make my 2012 entry.
May your Spirit soar Forever.

Semper Fi " Sir"
Edwin K. Campbell
Gysgt USMC " RET "

Brian Brady

May 1, 2012

Seven years tomorrow, John. The world misses you. I miss you.

Robert Hill

November 12, 2011

He was a great Officer, one of the FEW, that really made things work perfectly. You are missed sir and I hope I can serve with you again when my time comes.

Robert Hill GySgt USMC Ret
VMFA-323 S-4 Chief
2001-2004

Joe Rudd CPL VMFA-314

June 22, 2011

I was stationed with then Major Spahr, He was probably the best Marine Officer that I knew, His daugther and my youngest son where born days apart. I would always see Major Spahr at Balboa hospital weekly for his wifes checkups. He truley was and still is an awesome perso. I have visted his grave site in section 60. My best memory was in Fallon, when the enlisted played the officers in softball. We won, but they gave it a hell of a fight. I'm truley sorry for your lost and God speed Marine

Brian Brady

May 29, 2011

Well John, another year has gone by and each time I drive by Miramar, I think of you. Our family went for a hike yesterday, in Balboa Park, and stopped by the Veterans Museum for the reading of the names of those KIA in Vietnam,

As they read off the names, flashes of you went through my head and I remembered you in our youth. While the experience was emotional, I couldn't help but to smile, happy that I had the pleasure of knowing you.

Patrice Curley

May 26, 2011

Thinking of you as we head into Memorial Day weekend. Thought of you a lot on May 1 and again on the anniversary of your death. I have not forgotten your service and sacrifice and I've taught my children about you. We plan to visit your grave this summer.
Thank you.
Love,
Patrice McConnell Curley

Peggy Childers

May 3, 2011

To the family and friends of Lt. Col. John C. Spahr:
Please accept my remembrance of John on the anniversary of his passing and know that he will never be forgotten.
Peggy Childers
www.IraqWarHeroes.org

Elizabeth Raab

January 14, 2011

Your legacy will forever live on in the hearts of those who knew you and shared in your struggle to protect our country and the ultimate sacrifice you gave so that we can be grateful for what we have. Your family, friends, loved ones and fellow soldiers will stay in my thoughts and prayers.
A Proud Military Mom.

bryan carter

December 13, 2010

Gunny Campbell said it all. Come to fight. Come to win. As Armorer of the Death Rattlers. I will always remember our small talks in the ready room.

Bryan Carter Ordanance/Armorer
2001-2004

July 13, 2010

" COME TO FIGHT " " COME TO WIN ". REST IN PEACE "SIR". 6/2010

E.K. CAMPBELL GYSGT U.S.M.C RET.

Kenneth Hawk Austin

May 25, 2010

John - Time haven't healled the wound of your passing. You will always be a hero to us all. It was a pleasure then as it is now to have been associated with you. You will always be missed my friend.

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June 24, 2009

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Edwin Campbell

May 27, 2009

Col Spahr,
I was sadened to find out the news of your passing. I know you are flying that F18 in Heaven and keeping the skies safe for all. It was pleasure to take care of your flight gear and keep you safe i wish i had more time at the Squadron but retirement called. i will never forget you.
"Semper FI "
Edwin K. Campbell
GYSGT F/E NCOIC 2000-2003
R.I.P "DUKES"

May 19, 2009

Hi John,
I was reading all these memories of you just now, I'm staying strong, but I miss you, OK, here comes the tears, sorry:) We are going to Arlington Cemetery this Memorial Weekend, I'm taking Mom. I'm just thinking of what Hunter "Hampster" Hobson said of you, "John was so Kind" and he is so right. We are going to see your Marine buddy Guy Ravey this weekend, can't wait to hear more stories about you! I just saw a funny picture of you today with this big, black, curly wig at a party - you were "Pat" from Saturday Night Live -you crack me up, and you have this big John grin on your face, having a blast. I miss you John, Sabrina Spahr Lawrence - or as I would sign off to you, "Sabrina the Great" P.S. Every day I go out I meet someone named "John" or hear someone say "John" is that you giving me a sign or what buddy - it's amazing. LOVE YA.

Patricia Hartman (Miss Tricia)

May 18, 2009

I knew Mr Spahr from his daughter Chandler when she came to Klassic kids Hage. He was such an awesome guy who all the counselors loved. I remember all the times when he would pick chandler up and she would be so happy that he came to pick her up. She would run and jump in his arms. They had this bond that nobody could break. Chandler loved her dad so much and we know how much he loved her. Mr Spahr always had a smile on his face and was a pleasure to have as a parent at my site. He always asked how everyone was doing and made sure that he said hello to all the staff.He was our HERO here at klassic kids Hage and i thank him for fighting for our country. Thanks you so much for encouraging me to finish school and to be a teacher. I hope that one when i have kids that my son will be half the man you were. Thank you for all you have done. May you Rest in Eternal Peace.

Christine (Staudt) Manjerico

May 2, 2009

"I have only recently learned of John's death and am deeply saddened by it. I knew John when he was at UD, working at Winstons and living in Southgate. I worked in the same building, and lived in the same complex. John and I got to be close friends. He was an exceptional guy. Very good hearted, kind and moral. A valued friend. Always seeing the good. After seeing Top Gun, that was all he talked about. Flying jets. I am so glad to know that he got what he wanted and, not surprisingly, did it well. I have always held a special place in my heart for my friend and hoped to cross paths again. My thoughts and prayers go out to his family for their loss. God Bless."

Peggy Childers

May 2, 2009

To the family of Lt. Col. John C. Spahr:
John gave the ultimate sacrifice and will be held in the hearts of Americans forever. I cannot and will not let our fallen heroes be forgotten. My deepest sympathy to you. "Some gave all."
Peggy Childers
"Don't Let The Memory Of Them Drift Away"
www.IraqWarHeroes.org

Brian Dennis

May 1, 2009

Dukes,

I'm sitting in Iraq and just went up on the roof and had a toast to you and Trash (unfortunately with a can of Pepsi... hey, it's Iraq). I can't believe it's been four years. I miss your grace and wisdom and Trash making me laugh. I hope you guys are saving a seat for me at the grandest of bars.

Semper Fidelis,

Heed

Hunter Hobson

April 22, 2009

Dukes,

See you next Saturday, Brother!

Semper Fi,

Hamster

David Keszei

February 3, 2009

Dukes,

Not a day goes by that I don't think about you and all the flights we flew and times we shared over the years in the Knights.

You will be happy to know that the Knights still get together and we always toast to you and the incredible person and fighter pilot you showed us all how to be.

Pinto

The Neal family

June 16, 2008

To the family of Lt. Col. Spahr,
Please know that just as your loved one will remain in your hearts and minds, his sacrifice and that of your family, will remain with the people he died defending. Words cannot express the gratitude we feel for his bravery and selflessness, or the heartache we feel for your loss. God grant you the peace that passes all understanding.

SSgt Riddle Death Rattler

May 17, 2008

To the Spahr family, John Spahr was one of those Marine officers that I greatly respected I served with VMFA-323 when he was a Major and my last memories of him where at the enlisted club at MCAS Miramar I was newly promoted to Sgt and he had asked me advice about leadership and what I could tell him that has made me successful, I remember I told him to stick to the basics that the basics of what the Marine Corps has taught me have carried me thru. I am extremely grieved to have found out so late of his death, and my heart goes out to his wife and family for the lose of such a great man. I will never forget that an officer of many years of experience and dedication to the Marines Corps is now gone and asked a junior Sgt for advise. To Dukes you will never be forgot'n I had a shot today when a former Death Rattler informed me that he was standing next to your grave, I hope that I priviledged one day to do so and salute one of the best officers in the Marine Corps I have ever known.

Doug Martin

May 4, 2008

Hope we always remember our friend and HERO!!!

May 3, 2008

You are remembered and respected. Thank you Lt Col Spahr!

Brian Brady

May 2, 2008

http://www.mortgageratesreport.com/in-memoriam-lt-col-john-c-spahr-usmc

Jean Crowley

May 2, 2008

We are thinking of you John and your family today. Nothing is the same since you are not here with us. We love you and pray for you always.

Aunt Jean & Uncle George

In Memory of John ~ ( Debra Estep )

May 2, 2008

Holding you all in my thoughts and prayers today.

The Wind on The Downs

“I like to think of you as brown and tall,
As strong and living as you used to be,
In khaki tunic, Sam Brown belt and all,
And standing there and laughing down at me.
Because they tell me, dear, that you are dead,
Because I can no longer see your face,
You have not died, it is not true, instead
You seek adventure in some other place.
That you are round about me, I believe;
I hear you laughing as you used to do,
Yet loving all the things I think of you;
And knowing you are happy, should I grieve?
You follow and are watchful where I go.”

(Written by Marian Allen during World War l )

Two lines that I wish you to keep near your heart…….

“You seek adventure in some other place.
That you are round about me, I believe”

I did not know John, but I am remembering on
this day he gave his all.
He is my hero.

~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~

The Other Side

i'm over on the other side
where life and death softly divide.
left my skin and bones behind
now i'm over on the other side.

can you feel me there with you?
my breath is gone but i'm not through.
loved you then and i still do
from over on the other side.

i can fly. really fly.
below the earth ... all through the sky.
tell em all i did not die.
i'm just over on the other side.

it's good here on the other side.
the sweetest songs...the bluest skies.
thank you for the tears you cried
but it's good here on the other side.

i can fly. really fly. below the earth...all through the sky.
tell em all i did not die.
i'm just over on the other side

the world is smaller than a needle's eye.
where life and death softly divide.
when you leave your skin and bones behind
i'll be waiting on the other side.

i can fly. really fly. below the earth ... all through the sky.
go tell em all i did not die.
i'm just over on the other side.

Song lyrics by Don Conoscenti
C Desert Muse/SESAC
www.donconoscenti.com
(Used with permission)

Sincerely,

Deb Estep ~ Ohio
Proud Air Force Mom and MIL

Remembering The Fallen – Blog
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The Other Side
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Angel and soldier drawing I have shared here.

Kerri Crowley

May 2, 2008

Today is a day that changed for all of us three years ago. On this 3rd year anniversary I still miss John every day. I send my thoughts and prayers to my Aunt Eileen, cousins and Chandler on this day. I am thinking of you.

I know John is looking down on us.

Love Kerri

Stephanie Crowley

May 1, 2008

Thinking of John and his family on this anniversary. We think of you often and pray for you all.

All our love,
George and Stephanie

Sabrina Spahr Lawrence

April 26, 2008

Hi friends, family, and John's fellow Marines, we are coming up on the day John "Dukes"Spahr and Kelly "Trash" Hinz died,
May 2, 2005, and I would like to say our family appreciates all your words on this legacy.com page (please tell others that know John to write, we love these messages) we think of all of you as part of our family and are so glad you knew John, he was funny, nice, loved being a pilot & father and Marine, loved life, and he was always caring about - YOU - they just don't make 'em like "Dukes" every day.
I wanted to let everyone know that a book with John Spahr in it will be coming out this Summer, in June 2008. The book is called
THE ATLANTIC OCEAN and the last Chapher is called "Brothers" The Author, Andrew O'Hagan lives in London, (he's from Scotland) The Author flew out here this year for 3 days, meeting our family, seeing the house John grew up in (there were 5 of us kids!) and where he went to school, etc.. I've read the last Chapter and it's about John and this other Military guy from Britian, Anthony, they both died, May 5, 2005. Let's keep the "John Ball up in the Air" so if you can, please pick up the book and read it for Dukes' [he's up there....and he'll know if your reading it.... :) !!] Some of the Marines he knows are quoted in there, and others, and it's really very good. When you talk to a fellow friend or Marine would you mention the book, maybe they'd like to read about John, again, it's called "The Altantic Ocean" It will be in bookstores (or you can get it on Amazon.com) in June (it's up there now, but you can't order until end of May/June) I never dreamed John would not be coming back from Iraq, I was up that night watching CNN and it said "Two FA-18 fighter bombers crashed 18 miles SW of Karbala in Iraq, one pilot found, they were off the USS Carl Vinson" I went to bed thinking "there are not alot of FA-18 jets and I was worried." Early the next morning I was going to call one of my sisters about this and then I got "the call" because when the 2 Marines went to my Mom's door, she wasn't there. The Major wouldn't confirm with me, they wanted to find my my first, she was in Florida with a friend, and late that afternoon they sent 2 Marines to her and she's never been the same. I never thought this would happen. John's new house he was so proud of back in San Diego, California, and couldn't wait to enjoy with his Daughter, I could not even bring myself to see it the time I was out there for the Memorial Mass at Miramar Chapel for Dukes and Trash. I never will go there, but having all those that knew John, and get what a great guy he was, it so nice for me to know. About 6 months before he died, I was thinking something was missing in my life, I have it all, but there was this empty feeling no "stuff" can fill. That something was God and I "got it" and I believe God prepared me for his death. I was lucky to have this faith to get through the pain of John's death. I say a prayer every night just for John since May 2 and will do so til I die at 104 years old! Let's keep John alive in our hearts, gratefully, Sabrina Spahr Lawrence as I would sign-off to John "Sabrina the Great" we had some great times John, I love you.

Ron Candiloro

April 24, 2008

My prayers go out to all of John's family and friends. I had known Dukes for many years and he was, without a doubt, the finest Aviator, as well as the finest person, I've ever known. I don't say that as a romantic footnote to his passing. It is simply the truth. There are few figures that are larger than life, but Dukes is one of them. I flew with him many, many times both as a student and as a peer and he was always positive and always helpful. For those that are not part of the Hornet community, it's difficult to describe the impact he had on everybody who knew him. He embodied the best of all of us and there will never be, in my humble opinion, another aviator quite like him. He was better than any of us. On May 2nd every year I pause and say a toast to Dukes. We all miss you brother. You will never be forgotten! God bless!

Adam Shea

January 23, 2008

I can only hope that others have a chance in their life to meet a man of such character. That person they look to for mentorship, personally and professionally. I had the great pleasure of serving with and for Lt. Col. Spahr. He was a man and Marine that provided the most concise and candid responses in any situation. Many days have passed, but not many without reflecting on the guidance that he provided me to be a good father, husband, leader, and Marine. You are certainly missed "Dukes." My prayers go out for your family, and thank you.

SSgt. Adam Shea
VMFA-323, Seat Shop, 2000-2004

Brian Brady

November 11, 2007

Thinking of you today, John.

Veterans Day, 2007

Susan Stanley

November 7, 2007

Dear relatives of John, my son SSGT Russell J. Verdugo is buried in Arlington National Cemetery along with your hero. I took some photos last Memorial Day Week-end 2007 and have a photo of your John’s grave site and marker. If you would like a copy emailed to you, please let me know. I know we are so very proud of our fallen heroes, but we miss them so.
In loving remembrance of our heroes!
Gold Star Mother,

August 14, 2007

There is nothing that I can say or do to take away the pain or bring you peace in your time of sorrow, but I will offer you and your family my heart felt condolences. I also offer you my prayers that in time the pain will easy and the memories of your HERO will carry you through each day and night. I want to thank your HERO, for his/her selfless act of becoming a member of the armed forces, his/her willingness to defend the United States of America, all that we hold sacred and for the sacrifice that will forever be etched in the memories of all those who knew him/her. Though tears can never bring him/her back, we hope that our tears express our gratitude for the sacrifice that he/she made and our sorrow at his/her passing. I believe for every fallen HERO there is a star shining brightly up above to remind us of the precious gift we were given.

Your mission on earth is complete and you are now a member of GOD’s Heavenly armed forces. Stand down brave warrior and take your rightful place in Heaven with all the HEROES who have passed before.

I made a special promise to LE RON A. WILSON, a dear family friend who joined the Army with three other friends, one of whom is my son (Le Ron was killed in action on 07/06/07 at the age of 18) on the day he was laid to rest as I touched his coffin, that I would never forget him nor would I forget those that gave their lives for our country before him, with him and after him and so when I came across www.legacy.com, I thought what a great way to keep my promise to Le Ron, so I will continue to leave tributes in each guest book until the day there is no longer the need to leave these tributes to a FALLEN HERO.

REST IN PEACE, HERO, YOU WILL NEVER BE FORGOTTEN!!

PROUD MOTHER OF A U.S. SOLDIER
Currently stationed in Germany
Althea Barrett(Queens, NY)

July 16, 2007

Thank you for the sacrifice made by Lt Col Spahr and the sacrifice made by everyone who loves and misses him! May God bless all of you!!

Cherylann Lane

July 8, 2007

With deepest sympathy for your terrible loss. Everyone at Operation Jersey Cares feels your pain. We love and support our troops. John may be gone but not forgotten!

Tim Golden

June 15, 2007

Tha Duker,
It has taken me a long time to have the courage and fortitude to contemplate what has happened. On the 2nd of May Lurch, Knuckles and I visited your place of rest. We all tried to keep our game faces and not sure we could have done it alone. The Marine Corps is not the same without you. I think about the 7 months we spent stuffed into our stateroom. There was not a day that went by that I was not thankful for your friendship. I learned more from you about life, and being a good fighter pilot/officer in those 7 months than anyone could have learned in a lifetime. Hands down John, you are the best fighter pilot, man, father and friend than I have or will ever know. Your memory will always be near.

In another life John, until then, I'll miss you.

-Nugs

Grace Z

May 28, 2007

Tell them of us and say,
For their tomorrows,
We gave our today.
-- The Kohima Epitaph

We will never forget,
NJ Marine Moms

May 24, 2007

To the Spahr Family:
Another year has passed and your John continues to be remembered and honored. God bless you all and may you take comfort in the knowledge that many of us remember an American hero from Cherry Hill.

Pat B, Cherry Hill, NJ

Brian Dennis

May 2, 2007

Dukes it was two years ago today that we lost you and Trash. Today Woody, Halfcock, and a few others went to your memorial at Mount Soledad. We had a moment of silence at exactly 10:05 AM local time.

Then we stayed for a while, looking at you guys and traded stories. I told the one where you and Hamster were going toe to toe at our Mess Night in Fallon. I remembered how Hamster made fun of your light-blue T-shirt and you responded by making us fly around the room in a simulated Blue Angels formation making jet noises. Oh yah, and many drinks were had! What a great night. I have a hundred memories like that of you and Trash. I miss you guys. Save a seat for me next to you and Trash at the bar up there.

Heed

Garnet Jenkins

May 2, 2007

It is an honor to pay tribute to Lt. Col. John C. Spahr, with a Multitude of Thanks, for this Brave Marine's Courage, Dedication and Many Years of Service to our Country and for Freedom.

May Lt. Col. Spahr Rest Safely, in God's Loving Care and may the Peace of God continue to be with his loved ones.
Those who Made the Ultimate Sacrifice, So Many and So Young, shall Never Be Forgotten, my brother among them. Killed in action in Vietnam in 1967.

"And He will raise you up on eagle's wings...Bear you on the breath of dawn...Make you to shine like the sun...and hold you in the palm of His hand""

I am sincerely hoping that you continue to feel the thoughts of caring and support that surround you each day, as this Country Remembers Someone Very Precious to you, who is a Hero to all of us.
I am So Deeply Sorry for your loss.

Lizanne Magarity Pando

February 12, 2007

Dear Spahr Family: I have just recently heard of John's death and am so sadden. I went to U of D with him and knew him from my days at Mt. St. Joes in Flourtown. He was a great guy and fun person. My fondest memory was of his dancing at Delaware - he was really good and we would dance at the Down Under quite a bit. I haven't even heard of where he was until just recently.

He definitely loved life. It breaks my heart to know that was teken from you all.

Your family will be in our prayers for your loss of this American Hero.

God Bless, Lizanne Magarity Pando

Susan Civitillo

February 4, 2007

Visited Arlington Cemetary today....John was by far the best Marine and one of the kindest guys I knew. A true hero. Miss you John.

Michael Cascio

January 19, 2007

My wife and I met John at UofD and had the good fortune of being his roomate for several years in Newark and Wilmington. He was in our wedding party and I was in his. Our friendship spanned decades and we always valued it.
John was in all honesty the best all around guy I ever knew, hands down, and his death was a tremendous loss to so many. I think about John all the time, and try to likewise remember that his life was a tremendous gift to so many. To the entire Spahr family, please accept our deepest sympathies and gratitudes for John.

Michael & Stephanie, Mike, John & Danny Cascio

Dennis McNerney

November 19, 2006

My deepest sympathy to Johns family. I knew John from UD and even worked with(for)him at H.A. Winstons. John left a lasting impression on all that he met. He was someone who was great to be around, fun-loving and left a positive mark. John will always be remembered and will be in our prayers and thoughts.

Kelly Sutter

November 2, 2006

We are heartbroken.
Just heartbroken.
We love you.
Went to Arlington Cemetary today.

Love,

Kelly Spahr Sutter

Thomas & JoAnn Meehan

August 17, 2006

Our heartfelt sympathy to the Spahr Family, my wife and I did not know John. As parents who lost a daughter, Colleen, Age 26 on September 11, 2001 at the WTC, we share and understand the immense loss and sorrow of losing a child.

Please know that his sacrifice will not be forgotten, and he will remain in our prayers forever, a hero whom we will never forget.

Our prayer is that God’s tender mercy will dry your tears, and that He will comfort you in all the days ahead.

May the Peace of the Lord Be With You, Upon You, and Remain With You Always,

With Love & Respect,

Tom & JoAnn Meehan

ROBYN GARSIDE

August 8, 2006

MAY GOD BLESS YOU AND YOURS. I HAVE JUST LEARNED OF YOUR GREAT LOSS AND WISH TO EXPRESS MY DEEPEST CONDOLENCES. PLEASE KNOW THAT THERE ARE PEOPLE OUT HERE WHO DO CARE AND YOUR HERO WILL NEVER BE FORGOTTEN. HOLD TIGHT TO YOUR TREASURED MEMORIES THAT HIS SPECIAL SMILE MAY CONTINUE TO SHINE FOR YOUR DAUGHTER. I PRAY THAT PEACE WILL FIND YOU ALL SOMEDAY. STAY STRONG AND GODSPEED. SEMPER FI

A PROUD MARINE MOM

Robert Peterson

May 13, 2006

May 2nd, 2006. A year ago today, I was returning from a combat patrol over Baghdad, Iraq. It was the late afternoon and as the weather continued to deteriorate; my wingman and I were pleased to be leaving. Today, from my vantage point in a Baghdad suburb, it is as if the sky remembers the tragedy that took place that evening. It has the same tannish-gray overcast and I can see the thunderstorms building. The sky may reflect the conditions during which John died, but the following paragraphs attempt to reflect how he lived.

I had the honor of working for, and flying with John “Dukes” Spahr during the better part of four years. He was many things to us; a mentor, father figure, role model, and leader. I have many stories to pass on, but in the interest of brevity, will only share how I knew him as a pilot.

The first time I met Dukes, I flew with him at Fallon as part of a four versus many, flight. He was still an instructor at TopGun, and I was fresh out of the training command. I was amazed at his skill. During the debrief, when we watched the taped choreography of the flight, the icon that represented his aircraft rapidly moved from one set of hostile fighters to the next. Defeating each and then moving on. He was the best.

His skill as a pilot instructor was not hindered by pride. When teaching it seemed that he would sometimes purposely throw out an error. If you did the right maneuver he would give you some immediate feedback, saying over the radio “That’s gonna hurt”. In the debrief, he didn’t miss a thing. If one of us had a bad flight he still made the student feel good about it, while he emphasized the important learning points. He made it fun. He was very humble about his flying abilities. If complemented, Dukes would either deflect the praise, or attribute his skill to all the mistakes he had made in the past.

He had an uncanny ability to make each of us feel special. We all miss him severely; he gave all of us so much. Leadership, learned from his example, is what I value most from my military service. Those who served with him, seek to keep his memory with us, and to incorporate his best traits into our lives. It was an honor to know John Spahr. Semper Fidelis, Dukes.

Emily Afuola

May 7, 2006

To the Spahr Family; First of all I send you my deepest condolences & then like to tell you that I have been trying to reach you, it is very important that I speak to the family, as I have some things that belong to you. Please email me as soon as possible. Thank you

Emily Afuola

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Larry OBrien

May 5, 2006

To the Spahr family from the Palm Springs Air Museum. Dedication of our F/A 18 on May 29th, 2006 to John and Kelly will be a lasting tribute to two hero's

Capt Joey Porrazzo

May 4, 2006

Just wanted to let everyone know that the Snakes toasted a shot of Tequilla in the Fallon O'club for Kelly and John at 2145 02 May 2006. These Marines are honored in this squadron, their squadron, and will NEVER be forgotten!

Beverly Dixon

May 2, 2006

To the Spahr Family: On the year anniversary of Dukes death, I want you to know he is not forgotten. Eileen - I met you as your son's "date" at one of the first Snakes' events that we attended. You impressed me then with your grace. John had your same grace. My John (Halfcock) was so impressed by your son as was I. He had a way of always making you feel comfortable. My last memory of him was the wives trying to make him smile at the predeployment brief. He had just gotten his braces and was acting like an embarrassed teenager. It was my honor to be at his funeral, although it will always be one of the hardest days of my life. Eileen, I haven't seen you since Mexico, but I know you are still the light that has led your family through it darkest time. Please know I think of you and Chandler everyday and we talk about Dukes often. He will not be forgotten. All of our love.

Tom Gugliuzza-Smith

May 2, 2006

My heartfelt sympathy to the Spahr family in the loss of John. I did not know John, but my heart is broken and I am saddened for your loss of such a fine young person and hero. May God bring you peace in your heart as you reflect on all the wonderful memories you hold so close. Please know that you are in my heart and prayers. John today is one year since you were taken. You are a hero and you will never be forgotten. To the Spahr family I live fairly close to Arlington National Cemetery and each time I am there I will visit John. I visited John today on this sad day that he was taken from you.

I send each of you a hug from the most inner part of my heart.

Love and Peace

Tom

To live in the hearts

of those you leave behind

is never to die"

~Robert Orr~

MICHAEL LAUB

February 23, 2006

John and his TOPGUN buddies spent time in my Lake Tahoe home. John, always the gentleman, continously expressed his gratitude for the hospitlality and always offered his help. I found it interesting when I asked who was the "the best of the best at TOP GUN" -EVERYONE in unison pointed to John. He was everyones favorite guy-quiet, humble and a all-around great guy. We all miss him and feel the tremendous loss. I am humbled to have known him

Cpl Royce Eric Slim

October 3, 2005

I will never know another man who could make me feel like everything will be alright again. I was just about to quit when I met you for the first time. I'll forever remember the feeling of accomplishment I had when I got my cdi qual.You looked at me and it felt like I will never feel this important again. And to this day I still sit in my room and wonder why you didn't come home with us. It feels like I don't know you that well but you and I both met this squadron at about the same time. So a lot of things are really hard to see when you aren't there. In a new squadron with new marines it feels overwhelming. But everytime it feels like too much I remember that Lt.Col. John C. Spahr gave his life and it's my turn to give the same. I finally understand Semper Fidelis. Thank you. Cpl Slim A/F VMFA-323 DEATHRATTLERS

K Coleman

September 22, 2005

John Spahr, a man with a heart of gold. He was a leader who motivated those who followed. It was an honor to serve under such a great man. Thank you sir, for showing me just how great one man can be. God bless your family. Semper Fi, rest in peace.

BLM

September 16, 2005

Some men live an entire life and do not achieve the humility, kindness, and honor that John Spahr attainted in his life. He was a pleasure to be around and glowed with knowledge, enthusiasm, confidence, and utter competence. I respected him. He was and, more importantly, is a man to emulate. I am very, very saddened for the family of this fine man. My prayers are with you all. I especially cry for you Sabrina.

Susan C.

August 25, 2005

I had become friends with John almost three years ago. We both share the same hometown and his mother, Eileen and my mother-in-law, Jean have been close friends for over 50 years. Upon meeting him for the first time, John had the ability to make you feel like you'd known him your whole life. It was one of his many special gifts…he was so kind, approachable and had a great sense of humor.

I was invited to watch his squadron perform FCLP (Field Carrier Landing Practice) at MCAS Miramar shortly before their deployment on the Vinson. I was sitting along the flight line with "Kitty," another pilot from his squadron and John was in the air practicing that night. As John approached the runway to land, Kitty told me to get on the radio and tell him "Wave-off, Wave-off, Foul Deck!" which tells the pilot to abort landing, circle around and try again. Well, I guess John decided to have fun with us because after he aborted landing as I instructed, he decided to fly really low directly over our heads…it almost blew my eardrums out! When I asked him about it later that night, he just had this knowing little smile on his face.

Although it was only for a few short years, John's friendship touched my life and I feel very blessed to have known him. I will miss John, and am thankful for the great memories I have of him to keep with me always.

Brian Dennis

August 4, 2005

Dukes, it has been over three months since we lost you and I still think of you everyday. The rest of cruise I couldn't walk to the wardroom without passing your stateroom and wishing you were in there or hoping you'd be at chow, but inside I knew better. You used to tell me in your office, "be brief, be kind, be gone," so I will do the same. I simply want to thank you. Thank you for making me care and for making me want to be a better person and a better Marine leader. Thank you for helping me to become a better pilot. Finally, thank you for your sacrifice. I will never forget you and may God enjoy the fact that he has such wise, loyal, and graceful council at his side. -Heed

LtCol Larry Henigan

July 31, 2005

As a high school classmate of John and a fellow Marine, I was crushed when I heard the news of his death. John was always one of “those guys”. He was a man with gifts of athleticism, intelligence and charisma. At the same time, he was humble, friendly, and approachable. Those traits are the marks not only of great Marines and leaders, but of great men! The world will be less of a place without him.

Kerri Crowley

July 8, 2005

Hi John

I still can not believe you are gone. It has been two months since we said good bye. I remember so much about you especially growing up as cousins. I always looked up to especially being six three:)

I always think back to the memories I shared with you growing up in the East Coast. I am so glad I moved to San Diego and lived near you. I have so many memories hanging and partying with you. I have so many memories.

One of my favorite memories of you and I is singing 99 bottles of beer on the wall song. We went to Vermont for a family vacation. One night all the cousins went out. I grew tired at the end of the night and you put me on your shoulders to walk home together while everyone else walked ahead. I was 5 yrs. old and your were 14 years old. What a pair! I rode on your shoulders all the way home and we sang 99 bottles of beer on the wall all the way home. I had so much fun. I remember that night like it was yesterday.

I also remember you putting your football helmet and shoulder pads on me. I would run around and pretend you and I were teamates. You never made me feel like I was a little pest. I could not wait to see you when our families got together. I always knew you would play and hang out with me.

I really miss you but I know you are looking our for all of us everyday.

God has the best wingman now!

Love and miss you.

M S

July 6, 2005

A man that I respect gratefully. One of the few and proud. You even made sure that I got my award before I left. You thought about your troops before yourself.That I will never forget.I am proud to have served under you. Thanks for the lessons. Semper Fi!

adrienne Lewis ( usmc ret)

July 4, 2005

I was shocked and saddened to hear about Major Spahr's passing. When his name was mentioned, I cried for a wonderful Assistant Aircraft Maintenance Officer whom I had the pleasure of serving with in VMFA-314 "Black Knights" on the USS Nimitz. I will always remember his excitement when I invited him as my guest to dine in the chief's mess on "invite your boss to dinner day". Everytime he saw me he would say "__ hours or minutes to steak and crab. He said he couldn't wait to finally eat some good food during the six month cruise. He was a easy going humorous man and a outstanding pilot who knew his stuff. He will surely be missed.

Tom Cunningham

July 3, 2005

I was shocked to see John's photo on CNN this afternoon. I'm so sorry for your loss and hope that with time your grief will lessen and be tempered with the memories of what a good man he was. I remember him as a guy who was always fun to be around. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.

Mike Ippolito

July 2, 2005

My family was shocked and saddened to learn of John's death. When we first heard his name mentioned on the news, my wife, Diane, knew that it had to be the same John whom we knew as a youngster when we were neighbors of the Spahr family in Cherry Hill. We remember how closely knit the family was. John was close to our son, Mike, Jr., about the same age, and his sisters often babysat for our children. Having read all of the entries in this guest book, it is clear that John was loved by many and gave to many during his all-too-brief lifetime. We are proud to have known him and his great family for a short while. The entire Ippolito family sends sincere condolences to John's widow & daughter, and to his mother, Eileen, brother Stephen and his four sisters. He clearly accomplished more than most while he was with us and left his very positive mark on all those whom he touched.

With Very Best Wishes,

Gary Thomas

June 27, 2005

I was privileged to serve with Dukes in VMFA-323 aboard USS CONSTELLATION. He was an outstanding fighter pilot and the finest officer I have known. His Marines would follow him anywhere. I came to admire his quiet demeanor, great sense of humor, and professionalism. He was a tremendous mentor, kind, and brave. He was the kind of man that makes a country like ours great. John's character is a tribute to his mother and father, Eileen and Ronald Spahr. May his family be comforted by the fact that John had a direct positive impact on so many lives. So long Dukes.

Semper Fi,

Lurch

Mark Szarmach

June 22, 2005

There are some people who we meet in life who are unforgettable, and John is certainly one of them! I first met John in OCS, where he immediately impressed me as a big, loveable, kind-hearted gentleman. I will never forget John's caring manner, friendly personality, endearing smile and heart-warming laugh. I have so many fond memories of John that I can not begin to express them. Like the time I had to fix the Marine Corps Emblems on his Dress Blues at his wedding because he had put them on the opposite sides of his collar, or the time he playfully threw my son up in the air and accidently stuck his head in the ceiling fan. My son wasn't hurt, but the look of shock on John's face as the fan blades went thump, thump, thump on his little head.......it was hilarious after it was over. Yes, we lost someone very special with John's passing. I will never forget when he asked me "Who's the guy wearing the black leather belt?" when we were in OCS, or how he would pick me up with a big bearhug to crack my back. (John, I could use an adjustment now if you're listening.)

My thoughts and prayers go out to John's family. I can not imagine the pain and loss you must feel. I still can not believe that he is gone. I am only happy that I was lucky enough to have known him and to have had him as a friend. I am not afraid to say that I loved that big lug! I will always miss you Spahr-dooch!!!

Guy Ravey

June 8, 2005

I have many of the same stories already expressed by so many people (some I know, many I don't know). I, too, had many challenging and interesting flights with John Spahr, both in training and combat. I, too, enjoyed countless laughs and fun times with and around him. I, too, felt the grace and the kindness that was the heart of that man. I, too, shared numerous personal conversations and bull sessions. I, too, will never fully live up to the measure of that man; but because of him, I will never stop trying. Thank you, John Spahr, for the gift of your spirit to us all.

LtCol Robert Charette

June 4, 2005

Dukes we miss you and will never forget your quick smile and your strong helpful hand. You walked among the best of our Marine Corps as a leader, fighter pilot, and friend. I always admired your relationship with your mom and genuine love of Chandler. Your memory lives in all those you touched and the example you set is worthy of imitation. Semper Fidelis my friend and may God Bless you and your family, “Brutus”

Stephanie Novak

May 31, 2005

Just looking opening up the paper (Washington Post)today and the first thing that I see is Johns face staring back at me. It was 2 pages of the men and women who had died in and around Iraq. I immediatley started to cry because I remember what a wonderful man he was. We were stationed in Pensacola together and he and his wife were 2 of the most loving people I have ever met. Even though we have lost touch since we moved from CA we will never forget such a great individual. Diane and Chandler our prayers are with you and we are so sorry for your loss. All our love,

Ron, Stephanie, Page, Vanessa, and Cameron Novak

GySgt Allen Bergeron

May 27, 2005

I had the honor and privledge to serve with Maj. Spahr. May God bless him and his family. Thank you for serving John.

Allen Bergeron

Jessica Magley

May 23, 2005

John- This is the first time I have sat down to processes most of this and thought it would be best to talk to you about it. Your little girl is so strong she still amazes me to this day. She is smart, brave and funny. All the best qualities of both of her parents wrapped into one beautiful package. I am doing my best to take care of her and her mother but could really use your help.

I remember about 8 years ago, I was living with the three of you and you sat me down one day and told me that if Chan turned out to be half the person I am you would be extremely proud of her. That was one of the best moments of my life and I thank you. Just as a note she is 10 times the person I will ever be. I will do my best to help raise her.

I love you and miss you,

Your sdf,

Jessica

Brian Brady

May 22, 2005

I'm saddened to hear about John's passing. John was an inspiration at The Prep and throughout my adult life. I was so glad to hear that we were neighbors again when we talked before his redeployment. This is a devastating loss of a great Marine, athlete and friend.

Joey Porrazzo

May 20, 2005

Dukes taught me more about flying, how to treat others with kindness, how to be a leader, and most importantly, how to love unconditionally as a Father, more than he could ever know. Quite simply, he was the man I wish I could become. Dukes is truly irreplaceable, a legend who walked among us. He died over the skies of Iraq serving his country and for that, he is a hero. Rest assured, the Marines of VMFA-323 will continue to train and fight as he would have wanted them to. Dukes, I miss you Brother. Rest in peace and Semper Fi!

Vincent Wawrzynski

May 18, 2005

I remember John checking into 314 as a nugget thinking to myself that he seemed already at place. A natural as a Fighter Pilot, and always a professional and considerate person. We all lose a little without his grace.

Janine Lamarra

May 17, 2005

To the entire Spahr family I am deeply sorry for your loss. May each of you find peace in knowing that John died doing something he loved and made life better for all of us in defending our country. My prayers are with you.

Janine

Charlie Lamb

May 16, 2005

I was a SJP classmate of John's briefly in 1977-1978. We played football together. I also lived in San Diego for 13 years prior to John's TOPGUN graduation in 1996, though I did not know him well, I do remember those SJP days. My thoughts and prayers go out to John's daughter and the entire Spahr family. John's accomplishments are an inspiration to me and the mark of a great man. Semper Fi!!

Patrick McGuckin

May 16, 2005

The McGuckin Family would like extend our condolences to his family and friends at this great loss. John was a great leader as a classmate, our quarterback and on the crew team. I will always look back and picture him as someone I always admire as a True American; bright, energetic and friendly to all. God bless him and keep him.

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