Phyllis M. Heckmann

Phyllis M. Heckmann obituary

Phyllis M. Heckmann

Phyllis Heckmann Obituary

Obituary published on Legacy.com by Gibbons Funeral Home - Elmhurst on Oct. 22, 2025.

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Phyllis M. Heckmann, nee Calabrese, age 99, Valedictorian Austin High School, Class of 1943; Graduated Rosary College Class of 1947 where she majored in Chemistry and made friendships that lasted over 77 years; Avid bridge player at the Oak Brook Club; devoted Saint Vincent DePaul Volunteer, Headstart program founder, Omaha NE; beloved wife of the late Dr. Irvin L. Heckmann; loving mother of Kathy (John) Kowieski and Peter (Michelle) Heckmann; cherished grandmother of Andy (Ally), Brian (Colleen), Matt (Tiffany) Kowieski and Meg (Joe) Quille, Alli, Sarah and Jay Heckmann and great-grandmother of Alivia, Brinley, Josie, Theo, Weston, Quinn, Nora and Ruth; dear sister of the late Pat (the late Betty) Calabrese; fond aunt of Barbara, Frank, Patrick and John Calabrese. Visitation Monday, June 30, 2025, 4:00 p.m. until 8:00 p.m. and Tuesday, July 1, 2025, 8:00 a.m. until time of prayers 9:00 a.m. at Gibbons Funeral Home, 134 South York Road, (½ mile North of Saint Charles Road), Elmhurst. Mass of Christian Burial 9:30 a.m. at Immaculate Conception Catholic Church. Interment Queen of Heaven Catholic Cemetery, Hillside. In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made to Saint Vincent DePaul, 66 Progress Parkway, Maryland Heights, MO 63043-3706. For funeral information please call 630-832-0018 or www.gibbonsfuneralhome.com

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134 South York Road, Elmhurst, IL 60126

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