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Tom Phelps Obituary

Tom Phelps was born to Paul & Carroll Phelps, July 17, 1947. He graduated El Camino High School, joined the Marine Corps & then worked his way up to managing the SF Fairmont Hotel. He lived for his kids, the 49ers, rocking out on his guitar, animals & strawberry milkshakes. Tom is preceded in death by his parents Paul & Carroll, & second Mom Della. He is survived by his sister Cathie, brother-in-law Danny, his children Katrina, Cassie, & Shane, & his second family of the Spencers - Warren, Russ, Gail & Karen. There will be a Mass offered on Sunday, December 29th at 10am at St. Ignatius of Antioch Church.

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Published by Sacramento Bee on Dec. 28, 2013.

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cathie phelps-elze

January 8, 2014

Jerry and all. Thanks so much for the beautiful thoughts. My Bro definably was a true Hippy and loved my Yogi so much.We the big 5 a road trip on July 17 2014 in Mendocino. Bro picked the spot .The weather should be awesome. Will let you know more later.. Love peace and out Cat!

Linda (Bradanini) Albracht

December 29, 2013

I was also a classmate of Tom, I was very sad to hear of his passing. My thoughts are with his family at this very difficult time. He will forever live in my heart as that young teenager in high school.

Pat (Montich) Bigelow

December 29, 2013

I, too, was a classmate of Tom's at El Camino and am so sorry to hear of his passing. My thoughts and prayers are with his family at this difficult time.

Jerry Hogshead

December 29, 2013

I knew Tom from High School days. Saddened to here of his passing but happy to hear of his finding a family and dedication to his kids. Wish I could meet them some day.

December 29, 2013

Tom, a gentle soul that I haven't seen in 25 years...the last time The Beasts played with Tom as our base player...God bless you Tom...Kerry Tucker

ron brady

December 28, 2013

I'm so glad our paths crossed . I loved to hear the stories he had about what he had experienced in his life. His knowledge about baseball and football players was endless .I always looked forward to meeting with him to purchase sports memorabilia . He always had a special surprise. He would say I got something that's gonna knock your socks off. I will miss him

December 28, 2013

Saddened to hear of Tom's passing. My husband Craig and I were classmates with him at El Camino High School in Sacramento, Ca. Our thoughts and prayers are with all of his family at this time. Rest in peace Tom.

Sincerely, Craig and Jeanette Dillingham
Lodi, California

Dylia Klatt

December 28, 2013

I didn't know Tom, but I kinda feel I do now. This obit was clearly written by someone who knew Tom well and loved him dearly despite his many quirks, or perhaps because of them. It is refreshing to see such full scale acceptance and unconditional love professed publicly. No shame, no blame. Bravo!
What a great send off!

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