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Deborah Ellen Benoit

1949 - 2020

Deborah Ellen Benoit obituary, 1949-2020, New London, CT

BORN

1949

DIED

2020

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New London, Connecticut

Deborah Benoit Obituary

New London - Deborah Ellen Benoit, 71, of New London died April 23, 2020. Deb was born March 29, 1949, in New London, the second daughter of the late Ben and Ceil Benoit. She graduated from St. Bernard High School in New London and went on to receive her undergraduate from Fairleigh Dickenson University, and a master's degree in Acting from the University of Connecticut.

She will be forever missed by her family and all the many friends that loved her. To know Deb was to know her gentle, kind and peaceful spirit. Her life was full of music and art, and she shared her loves of both with everyone around her throughout her life. She could often be found singing and playing her guitar in New London, and especially loved singing with children at local events. She believed in the power of music to lift people up.

Deb was a true champion of the City of New London; she was happiest walking on the pier when the tall ships would be at port, visiting the exhibits at the Hygienic, enjoying the Coast Guard concerts, and supporting all the local businesses and restaurants, especially Scott's in the warmer months.

For many years she loved working at Sullivan Printing Company with her family. She was also a beloved substitute teacher and was always ready to inspire the students that needed some extra attention, with her magical smile and expressions of wonder and delight at the simplest things.

While she was raised Roman Catholic and loved her memories of attending both St. Mary's and St. Bernard's schools, she devoted much of her spiritual life to the practice of Nichiren Buddhism and Soka Gakkai International (SGI). She was attracted to the inherent and boundless potential of the Buddha nature, and committed to the belief that each day offers an opportunity for growth. The practice of Buddhism was a natural fit for her courageous and compassionate heart. She believed this practice could transform suffering and create communities of peace.

She is survived by her children, Erin Powers Lambert and Jeff Lambert of West Tisbury, Mass., Collin and Clare Powers and Liam and Kirstin Powers of New London; in addition to her eight grandchildren, Cole, Desmond, Gus, Harriet, Nora, Frances, Rourk, and Rowan; and her beloved siblings, Cynthia Johnston, Bruce Benoit, Marc Benoit and Jeffrey Benoit.

For those who wish to make memorial donations, contributions may be made to St. Joseph's Parochial School, 17 Squire St., New London CT 06320.

The Thomas L. Neilan & Sons Funeral Home, 12 Ocean Ave., New London, is assisting the family with the arrangements. Please visit www.neilanfuneralhome.com to leave the family an online condolence. A celebration of her life will be planned at a time in the future.

To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.

Published by The Day on May 1, 2020.

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Caroline from UK

March 19, 2025

It was with great sadness I recently learnt of Deb's passing. I lived with her and Japanese students on Montauk. I always intended to return to the US for a holiday and visit Debby. Life got in the way and I never made it. Its too late now and this will be my biggest regret. I have very happy memories of being there. The Tribute photo is just how I remember her. Love you Debby and will always remember your kindness and laughter.

Ruth

April 25, 2022

I will never forget your gutsy life, smiling face, lovely guitar, and the lights of New London on the water at night looking down from your apt. Nam Myoho Renge Kyo.

ruth thomas nofchissey

February 21, 2022

My one of a kind friend and I had often watched the river in the night as we sat or sang or chanted. I was sorry to lose touch with her and I wish I could share my 2019 graduation news. I was so inspired by Debbie's list of cohorts on her Masters from Conn College. She was always holding others up to the light! Thank you Deb, for being your wonderful self and I know your journey continues. Blessings on your children, most dear to you always.

Susan

May 3, 2020

Rest In Peace my beautiful friend. Ill always remember your positive presence with happiness.

Andy Ciofi

May 2, 2020

Bruce and Family so sorry to hear of Deb's passing. Thoughts and prayers are with you All!

Susan Thomas

May 1, 2020

My heartfelt condolences to Deb's family. I was Deb's babysitter from the late 70's and early 80's. The coolest lady ever!

Shawna Zito-Hannan

May 1, 2020

Bruce so sorry to hear about your sister, it's a hard time to lose a loved one. May God bless you and your family.

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