Bernard Lee Messer

Bernard Lee Messer Sr., a beloved husband, father, grandfather, great-grandfather, and great-great-grandfather, passed away peacefully on October 5, 2025, in Sun City, Arizona, surrounded by the love of his family. Born on April 1, 1934, in Kirk, West Virginia, Bernard embodied a life of love, devotion, and service throughout his 91 years and a steadfast faith in Jesus Christ. Bernard's mother with her faith and unwavering prayers, planted seeds that would only start to grow and deepen his faith to a relationship with God.

In 1956 he married the Love of his life, his lover and helpmate, Shelva, and they became a family. Later after his time in the service he became a Christian around 1962.

In 1957 Bernard answered a higher calling and enlisted in the United States Army at Fort Benning Georgia and earned his rand of Corporal before completing his honorable service at Fort Rucker, Alabama. His time in Uniform helped shape a part of his character: discipline, integrity and started to give him a deeper sense of God and Family. Bernard dedicated 17 years of his career to the General Motors Cadillac division in Detroit, Michigan, before establishing M & M Roofing Company upon moving to Arizona in 1972. Alongside his cherished wife, Shelva Messer, and their children, he built not only a thriving business but also a legacy of love that would resonate through generations. His strong work ethic and determination to provide for his family were foundational aspects of his character, and he took immense pride in his role as a provider and protector.

The memories shared by his family paint a picture of a warm, loving man who was always there to lend a hand or offer a word of encouragement. Bernard's joyful spirit shone through in countless ways - from spontaneous visits and loving phone calls checking in on his children to lighthearted moments. His playful nature was matched only by his profound dedication to his family, always making time for family trips, household projects, and teaching grandchildren the importance of practical skills, like changing the oil in the car.

Holidays brought Bernard immense joy, as they were filled with family gatherings and his unwavering faith. A steadfast churchgoer and devoted follower of Jesus, he led his family by example, instilling values of love, faith and community service. His home was filled with heartfelt noise of children playing church-a testament to his ability to turn ordinary moments into cherished memories. Bernard was a remarkable figure who not only spoke about faith but lived it every day, touching many lives along the way. Often mistaken for a pastor by those near him he shared the teachings of the Gospel with love and sincerity, serving as a counselor for the North Phoenix Baptist Church and participating in the Billy Graham Crusades.

Bernard's proudest accomplishments were many, perhaps none more so than the courageous decision to move his family to Arizona for a better life for his asthmatic son, guided by prayer and faith as the Dr. said if they did not move their son would not make it. Throughout his journey, he demonstrated grace under pressure, teaching his loved ones the importance of faith and resilience in the face of challenges.

Bernard is survived by his devoted wife of nearly seventy years, Shelva Messer, and their children: Deborah Michelin, Mark Messer, Jenay Winn, and Wendy (Stephen) Martell. His legacy continues through his grandchildren: Theresa (Heath) Whetsel, Danielle Morgan, Tiffany (Tariq) Mujahed, Jessica Winn, Ashley Winn, Stephanie (Chad) Copeland, James Martell, and Victoria (Jonathan) Thomas, as well as his great-grandchildren and great-great-grandchildren, who will carry forward the stories and lessons he imparted.

He is preceded in death by his father, Tilmon Messer; his mother, Sadie Marie Vance Messer Bias; his siblings, Clayton Messer, Clisty Messer, Columbus “Jack” Messer, and Fannie Bell Messer Roberts; his firstborn son, Bernard Lee Messer Jr.; his grandson, Timothy Winn; and his great-granddaughter, Liberty Martell.

Bernard Lee Messer's life was a tapestry woven with love, laughter, and unyielding faith. He was a distinguished and cheerful man, whose presence on this earth will be profoundly missed yet his spirit will undoubtedly live on in the hearts of all who had the privilege of knowing him. As we gather to honor his memory, we cherish the countless impacts he made on our lives, always reminding us to love God, one another, live our faith, and never hesitate to reach out.