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170 North Main Street -At Riva Avenue, Milltown, NJ 08850
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Donna Gibson
May 23, 2020
Father Doug, We pray for you and your family that you will feel consoled and comforted and that our Lord will hold each of you in the palm of His hands. Thinking of you always. God bless!- Donna Gibson, Andrew, Matthew and Elizabeth Small
Joan Bankole-Jones
May 14, 2020
Dear Fr. Doug
I am sorry to learn today about the passing of your beloved Mom. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. May God continue to give you the grace and strength to grieve as one with hope. May her soul continue to rest in perfect peace.
May 7, 2020
Dear Doug,
I'm so sorry to learn of your Mom's passing. Losing a parent is a seismic event, made even more so during this time of isolation. Praying that you and your family can experience some solace and peace to ease your pain during this difficult time.
Gail Miranda
Lynnette Trosko
May 6, 2020
Dear Patti,
Very sorry to hear of the loss of your beloved mom. Thoughts and prayers to you and your family,
Lynnette Trosko
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Kathy Vladyka
April 24, 2020
Father Doug and family, Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your entire family during this very difficult time. Blessings for peace and comfort.-The Vladyka Family (St. Matthias Church parishioners)
Fr. Sylvester Nigeria
April 20, 2020
Dear Fr. Doug,
Please accept my heartfelt condolence on the death of your mother, Elizabeth "Bess" Haefner. May you and the rest of family members find consolation in the truth that she tried her utmost to live a good Christian life, and died a good Christian death. We pray that God will grant her a merciful judgement and forgive all her sins. May her soul rest in peace. Amen.
Ted & MaryAnn Gentilucci
April 20, 2020
Fr Doug our prayers and thoughts are with you and your family
George Breen
April 19, 2020
May God Bless
Rich Goff
April 18, 2020
My sincere condolences to the Haefner family. I have fond memories of Mrs. Haefner as my 4th grade teacher. It's was so nice to talk with her the last couple of years that she volunteered at the fire department sales booth at the Borough Park for the 4th of July parades.
Nora and Nestor Mercado
April 18, 2020
Dear Fr. Doug and family,
It is with deep sadness that we send our condolences to you on your mom's passing. We sincerely wish that we can share in your grief during this difficult time. Be assured that you are in our daily prayers and wish you peace and acceptance of the inevitable. May her soul Rest In Peace!
William SMITH
April 18, 2020
Dear Doug,Mark and Patti, we are very thankful for the close friendship with Bess and Bud. We will never forget. Our deepest sympathies.
Jude and El OConnor
April 18, 2020
Doug, Moose and Patti, please accept our condolences and thoughts of peace. Your moms smile and kindnesses will always be in our hearts as will you all, during this time.
Diane & Gary Granstrom
April 17, 2020
Sorry for for your loss! God will lift Bess up in the palms of his hands to a better life. Doug, Mark & Kristie we send our prayers.
Bill and Kathy Dowling
April 17, 2020
Dear Fr. Doug and family,
Kathy and I are so very sorry for your loss. You and you mom will be in our prayers.
Arlene Minucci
April 17, 2020
DEar Father Dough, was so sorry to read of your Mother's passing, She and your Dad were lovely. I hope and pray you are well. Arlene Minucci
Janet Jones-Owen
April 17, 2020
Father Doug and Family:
My prayers and heartfelt sympathy at this sorrowful time.
April 16, 2020
Dear Fr. Doug and Family,
With heartfelt sympathy on the loss of your
dear Mother. May God bless your Mother
and her loving family.
Ruth Skopyak, Somerset, NJ
Susan Ravens
April 16, 2020
Dear Patti, Doug and Mark -
Offering my sincere love and prayers to you and your families during this difficult time. So many beautiful memories come to mind, and bring a smile to my face when I think of Bess.. she was truly a gem.
Love and Blessings,
Susan Ravens
April 16, 2020
Dear Fr. Doug and Family,
With my sincere sympathy to you in the loss of
your dear Mother.
May God bless your Mother and her loving
family.
Ruth Skopyak, Somerset, NJ
Tom and Doris Goodwin
April 16, 2020
Our deepest sympathy.
Stephanus Busono,
April 16, 2020
Dear Fr. Doug, Mark, and Patti, I am very sorry to hear about your loss. Mrs. Haefner was truly special, it was an honor to have participated in her care and to have known her. She will always be remembered fondly. SB
Larry Mullane
April 16, 2020
Patti, Jim, and Family.
Our sincerest condolences on Beth's passing. What a wonderful person she was and what a wonderful life she led. May she rest in peace.
Evie and Larry Mullane
Theresse R Hensley
April 15, 2020
Fr. Doug, I am so sorry to hear of the passing of your Mom. I remember having the pleasure of meeting her in your family home many years ago. My heart hurts with sorrow for your loss. My sincere condolences. "Life holds many facets, this earth is only one. Her journey's just begun".
Consolata Missionaries
April 15, 2020
Dear Father Doug, we are sorry to hear that your mother has left you. The loss of the mother, no matter how aged she is, is something that nothing can fill. May the words of the liturgy bring you some comfort: "to yours, o Lord, life is not taken but changed". We are close to you and to your dear ones.
Wendy (Barus) DiBrigida
April 15, 2020
To the Haefner family: My deepest sympathies for your loss. I have fond memories of your mother as my teacher in Milltown and as my neighbor around the corner from Chestnut Street. God bless.
Claudette Gaspard
April 15, 2020
Our deepest condolences Fr Doug and your family
Claudette Gaspard friend Somerset NJ Apr 15 2020
Dominic Descala
April 15, 2020
Father Doug, Special prayers for your loss. May the Good Lord watch over your Mother.
Colleen & John McAuliffe
April 15, 2020
Father Doug, You are in our thoughts and prayers during this difficult time. May the memories of your mom bring you comfort. God bless you and your family.
Vicky and Tom Neville
April 15, 2020
Father Doug and family ,So sorry for your loss ! Your Mom will live on in the memories you hold deep in your heart ! Prayers and good thoughts for the family !
Cathleen and Christopher Halpin
April 15, 2020
A great teacher. An even greater person. Sincere condolences to the family.
Pat & Frank Sellinger
April 15, 2020
Fr. Doug, so sorry for your loss. May she rest in peace.
Joan Pritchard
April 15, 2020
Fr. Doug, I'm so sorry to hear of the passing of your mom, may wonderful memories of her bring you comfort and may you feel the love and support sent your way.
Dolores & Darrie Christmas
April 15, 2020
Dear Fr Doug, We're so sorry to hear this sad news about your mom. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time. Love and Blessings
Phyllis Stone
April 15, 2020
Sending my deepest sympathies for your loss, but also celebrating a life well-lived as demonstrated by those who live on and carry her spirit. God bless you. Love, the Stone Family.
Janice Regan
April 15, 2020
Dearest father Doug we were all very saddened to hear of the passing of your mother. We know you spoke lovingly of her often. The only consolation I can offer is that dying on Easter you know the Lord took her straight away with him. We will continue to keep you in prayer peace and love The Regan's
Rich Straczynski
April 15, 2020
Our Prayers to the Haefner family for their loss. May she rest in peace and be in God's presence for all eternity. With deepest sympathies, Richard & Audrey Straczynski
Christine Lavelle
April 15, 2020
Our most heartfelt condolences are being sent to your entire family during this very difficult time. Prayers for peace and comfort.-Robert, Christine, Morgan, & Trevor Lavelle (St. Matthias Church parishioners)
The Leonowicz's
April 15, 2020
Our deepest sympathies to your family on the passing of your mother. Your mom was sweet to everyone and so full of energy. She will remain a love. Our parents and their friends had so much fun together and although forever missed here their reunion will be a continual celebration. May God embrace you all during this difficult time and give you comfort, patience and strength.
With our love and condolences,
Joanna, Diane and Janice Leonowicz
Frank & Joanne Diana
April 15, 2020
Father Doug and family: Please accept our sincere condolences on the passing of your mom. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. May she rest in peace!
April 15, 2020
Our deepest sympathies to your family on the passing of your mother. Your mom was sweet to everyone and so full of energy. She remains a love. Our parents and their friends had so much fun together and although forever missed here, the reunion will be a continual celebration. May God embrace you all during this difficult time and give you comfort, patience and strength.
With heartfelt love and condolences,
Joanne, Diane and Janice Leonowicz
Patricia Gamboa
April 15, 2020
So sorry for your loss. Your family is in my prayers. May she Rest In Peace.
Malvin,Carmelina, Johanna and JJ Torralba
April 15, 2020
Our deepest condolences to Fr. Doug and the Heafner Family. We offer our prayers for her eternal Rest In Peace!
Ellie Miller
April 15, 2020
Father Doug I'm so very sorry to hear of your Mom's passing. Please know you will and always are in my prayers
Tibay Family
April 15, 2020
Our prayers and sympathy.
alan lefave
April 15, 2020
Dear Father Doug, I am truly saddened to learn of your moms passing. She was a very fine lady. Many nice memories of her, and your family.
Patricia Reilly
April 15, 2020
Dear Doug and family: my sympathies to you all in this time of sadness. Prayers.
Janet Witherspoon
April 15, 2020
To Patti,
I would like to extend my heartfelt sympathy to you and your family on the loss of your mother.
Janet Witherspoon, 1976 High school classmate, April 15, 2020
Cindy Lundy
April 14, 2020
Dear Doug,Mark and Patti and family, I was so deeply saddened hearing about the passing of your Mom. She was a wonderful woman who I always admired. Had the honor of being born on her birthday and your parents were the greatest friends to my parents. May she rest in peace and she's with your Dad in heaven. My deepest sympathy, Cindy (Guise) Lundy Denton, Texas
Frank Torok
April 14, 2020
Dear Doug, Mark, Patti and the entire Haefner family - I was saddened to hear of your loss. Mrs. Haefner was a great 4th grade teacher and a pillar in the community. She had a tremendous impact on me and I will remember her kindness, patience and generosity. She attended the 30th Anniversary Reunion of the JKS Class of 1974. It was a joy to sit and talk with her about her memories and how we grew up. My heart goes out to you and all who were touched my her caring spirit. Rest in peace, Mrs. Haefner.
Kathleen Gottwald- Marinelli
April 14, 2020
To the Haefner family,
Thoughts and prayers are with you. My deepest of Sympathy. Loved growing up with David and the special help educationally she gave! Great teacher and Great family. She will be sadly missed.
John Gardner
April 14, 2020
I'm sorry for your loss. May God bless
Ron and Marge Caimi
April 14, 2020
Fr. Doug and family, I am very sorry to hear about your mother passing I will keep you and your family in my prayers. May God bless your mother and may God take her into His loving presence.
Vince Martell
April 14, 2020
Fr Doug & family so sorry for the lost of your Mother. She always had a beautiful smile when she came to St Matthias Church. God Bless. Sincerely Vince & DeeDee Martell
Ron & Barb Yetman
April 14, 2020
Dear Mark, Doug and Patti,
We were so saddened to hear of your mother's passing. She was such a wonderful lady...heaven just got another angel. Please know that you and your mom are in our thoughts and prayers.
Sincerely,
Ron & Barb Yetman
Roseann Podlaski
April 14, 2020
To the Heafner Family,
Please accept my family's sympathy. We remember your mother's beautiful smile every time she visited St. Matthias Parish.
Sincerely,
Roseann Podlaski and Family
Barbara Glazewski
April 14, 2020
While "Bud" was the "mayor of lower Highland Drive," it was Bess who brought the warmth and heartbeat to it. Miss you, dear neighbor. Rest in peace. Barbara Glazewski
michael kraemer
April 14, 2020
Condolences to the entire family , our prayers , thoughts , and hearts are with you ....Michael & Sherry Kraemer
Joyce & Jerry Michalak
April 14, 2020
To the Heafner Family
So sorry to hear about the passing of your mom. I'm sure when she reaches the gates of heaven the doors will open and your dad and my mom and dad will welcome her with open arms and that they will resume their long friendship right where they left off in Milltown. Remembering you in our thoughts and prayers.
Mary Ann (Aller) CHEVALIER
April 14, 2020
So sad to read about your loss and am sending condolences and prayers to your family. May the many tributes to your Bess and the memories you hold close help you now and bring you happiness in the future.
Lynda Coan
April 14, 2020
Rest in peach Mrs . Haefner.
Bill Osman
April 14, 2020
I was so happy that I got to go to Joyce Kilmer for 4th grade and that I had Mrs. Haefner for my teacher.
THOMAS MICHAEL
April 14, 2020
Sorry to hear bout Bess. A wonderful lady and friend. Will truly be missed. Sympathys to all.
Fr Ed Czarcinski
April 14, 2020
All of the people of OLOL are saddened by the loss of Bess, and yet we are heartened by her reunion with Bud and with David. It was no coincidence that she died on the day of the Resurrection. We extend our loving sympathy to the whole family. One day, we'll celebrate her life around the earthly altar where she faithfully prayed for decades. May she pray for us at God's heavenly altar.
Fr Ed Czarcinski and the Parish of OLOL
The Fisher Family
April 14, 2020
Our thoughts and prayers are with the Haefner Family at this terrible time. The world has lost a great lady. She will be forever in our hearts. RIP Mrs. H.
Sharon Kudelka-Mireau
April 14, 2020
Condolences to the Haefner family. So many wonderful childhood memories include our parents interactions through the Fire Department, Ladies Auxiliary, OLOL and even visits to the barbershop, though only for my brothers or father's haircuts. May you find solace and peace in your memories and the many memories being shared by others at this time when we can not meet in person.
Joseph Fox
April 14, 2020
Very sorry for your loss.
Diane Harto
April 14, 2020
Patti, I'm so sorry for your loss. Your mom was a wonderful person. Always so good to us as kids. You're in my thoughts at this sad time.
Linda Hurlburt (née Szurley)
April 14, 2020
Deepest condolences. Mrs. Haefner was my 4th grade teacher. I remember her fondly. She held high expectations for us and always encouraged our best. Love and prayers to the family.
Doris Eib
April 14, 2020
She was a wonderful woman and a great teacher .maurice and doris Eib
Ken Burns
April 14, 2020
Father Doug and family,
You are in my thoughts and prayers at this difficult time.
Love,
Ken
Rich Pawlowski
April 14, 2020
Our deepest condolences to all , our family spent many great times together from fishing to ballgames and firehouse functions ,our memories are etched forever in our minds. God Bless .
Richard Warn
April 14, 2020
Very sorry for your loss, my sincere condolences for the whole family
Paul Christian
April 14, 2020
My late mother, Barbara Nelson Christian, taught with her at Joyce Kilmer. I went to school with Mark as well as Jim Pellichero. Got my hair cut by Bud more times than I could count. May she rest in peace. Paul Christian
Joan D. Caruso
April 14, 2020
My condolences to the Haefner family, wishing you loving memories to hold forever in your hearts
Debbie & Mike Lanyi
April 14, 2020
Fr Doug, we are so sorry to learn of your loss. If we could be there for you and your family we would. Know that you are in our thoughts and prayers.
Bea Torsiello
April 14, 2020
My deepest sympathy to Bess' family. I taught next to Bess at Joyce Kilmer School for several years in the late 60's and early 70's and have never forgotten her. She was a wonderful teacher, but more importantly, she was a wonderful woman.
Roma Yenalavage
April 14, 2020
Deepest condolences
bryan farmer
April 14, 2020
Sorry for your loss Mark, Doug , and Patty
Jim Sofranko
April 14, 2020
My thoughts and condolences to the Haefner family. Bess was always such fun and one of the best neighborhood Moms when we were growing up. She was always so sweet and kind to us unruly kids.
Rusty Bloss
April 14, 2020
My deepest condolences, some of my fondest childhood memories took place in the Haefner household!
Roseann & Mike Januszka
April 14, 2020
Dear Mark and Kristie,
We were so sorry to hear of your mother's passing; she will be sadly missed. Please know that you and your family will be in our prayers
Sue Selvaggio
April 14, 2020
Our deepest sympathies to the Haefner family from the Welsh family. May she Rest In Peace.
Feaster Family
April 14, 2020
Our deepest sympathy to the family.She was a true lady and always a joy to be with.
John Smith
April 14, 2020
My condolences to the family of this great lady. She was always extremely nice to my family and I. I will miss her.
Janet Lawrence/ Kuhlthau
April 14, 2020
My deepest sympathy to the family of Mrs.Haefner. Love, Janet, Ronnie and Leston Kuhlthau.
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